"What You See Is What You Get"
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December 3, 2013 4:27 pm at 4:27 pm #611466
What does this mean in regard to receiving info about a boy? It was said very matter-of-factly, like he’s blah blah blah (all the good things…) “but what you see is what you get”. What’s the BUT? Is this something I should worry about?December 3, 2013 4:34 pm at 4:34 pm #991423TheGoqParticipant
It means he’s fat.December 3, 2013 4:36 pm at 4:36 pm #991424popa_bar_abbaParticipant
He has good looks.
Kidding, it means he isn’t pretending to be someone he isn’t; he is inside the same as he appears from the outside. It is usually said as as compliment. Except if he is shvartzawolf, then it is an insult.December 3, 2013 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm #991425live rightMember
could be it means that he is a real dude. lucky youDecember 3, 2013 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm #991426
sg – like popa said. He isn’t some calm funny dude who gets all uptight and controling under pressure. Or some guy who is generally laid back but then at home he is nuts about ironing sheets and keeping socks in his fridge. Not that he’s hiding things on purpose, but some people are very different under different circumstances, and some are pretty consistent all the time.December 3, 2013 5:00 pm at 5:00 pm #991427HaLeiViParticipant
It probably means what Popa said, when you think you got to know him, you did. However, in my experience, I’ve seen that people shoot terms that have some meaning to themselves but are otherwise meaningless.December 3, 2013 5:12 pm at 5:12 pm #991428Torah613TorahParticipant
It means Efron took away all his money.December 3, 2013 5:15 pm at 5:15 pm #991429
I don’t know you personally, but based on how you post I would think you wouldn’t want someone “blah blah blah”. You want someone Rah! Rah!! Rah!!!December 3, 2013 5:19 pm at 5:19 pm #991430the-art-of-moiParticipant
Popa’s answer sounds right, I think…December 3, 2013 6:22 pm at 6:22 pm #991431
So if popa is right like you all think he is, why did she say “but what you see is what you get”? I’ll assume it was a slip cuz everything else sounds good, at least on paper. Thanks everyone!
Torah613 – I’m not good at this kind of stuff, care to explain?
Little Froggie – I am actually looking to settle down a bit so blah blah blah is on my list of things I want in a guy. Too much Rah! Rah!! Rah!!! is not healthy in a relationship.December 3, 2013 6:25 pm at 6:25 pm #991432
sg- I think that would depend on what he said in the sentence before that he was transitioning from.December 3, 2013 6:30 pm at 6:30 pm #991433popa_bar_abbaParticipant
Maybe she was dumb?December 3, 2013 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm #991434apushatayidParticipant
Maybe the paper contradicts what you see?December 3, 2013 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #991435
Syag- Yeh so now I’m gonna rack my brains and try to remember the convo my parents told me they had with her verbatim…
PBA – Lol! Very possibly. But not dumb enough that I’m not taking her words seriously.
apushatayid – Maybe. I guess that’s why we date before we get married. To see if the paper contradicts. Yup, that’s the reason.
In any event, I don’t like complicated people so this sounds nice. Too bad on him, cuz when it comes to me – what you see is NOT what you get.December 3, 2013 7:00 pm at 7:00 pm #991436
don’t bother. it probably doesn’t matter to remember all the details. It was just a reason why they may have used the word, “but” even if it wasn’t a negative intent.December 3, 2013 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm #991437Yserbius123Participant
I once slipped on my wife’s sheitel on the newly waxed kitchen floor and it became a WYSIWYG.December 3, 2013 7:29 pm at 7:29 pm #991438Trust 789Member
I would think it means he’s real. He doesn’t make believe he’s something that he’s not.
But really, it’s impossible for us to know what the person meant. You need to ask that person what they meant.December 3, 2013 7:40 pm at 7:40 pm #991439Trust 789Member
I think the “but” does say he meant it negatively. Again, ask that person or ask someone else who knows the boy. Don’t ask us. Nobody over here can possibly know.December 3, 2013 8:42 pm at 8:42 pm #991440
I know nobody knows. That’s why I’m asking here, I get a whole bunch of unrelated unbiased opinions. And I believe I got a practically unanimous answer so thanks guys!! Much appreciated.
So now don’t you feel loved? – 29December 3, 2013 9:53 pm at 9:53 pm #991441
lol 29, yep. They all love me so much they’re practically kicking me out the door – just get yourself married and go get a life. I’m trying everyone…
But seriously, it’s hard to figure out what people mean especially when you don’t know them. I’ve never heard anyone use these terms before while describing a prospective husband so I was just a bit confused what it meant. Hence, this thread.December 4, 2013 4:51 pm at 4:51 pm #991442
I think that’s an ad for a gitten shopDecember 4, 2013 8:22 pm at 8:22 pm #991443miritchkaMember
If everything else sounds good about this boy and the only thing holding you back is this “but”, then skip over it for now and finish the rest of the sentence. Go out with the boy and see if what you see is what you want to get! It cant hurt to go out… b’hatzlacha!December 5, 2013 2:13 pm at 2:13 pm #991444
LF – Was that a joke? Being the geek that I am, I prefer to write out my codes instead of taking the easy way out so I’m not familiar with the whole WYSIWYG culture…. And don’t you think it’s a little tacky to write about gittin in a dating thread?
miritchka – Thanks! I’ll probably be doing just that 😉December 5, 2013 3:03 pm at 3:03 pm #991445HaLeiViParticipant
Oh, I thought I invented Notepad coding.December 5, 2013 3:12 pm at 3:12 pm #991447
To be completely honest Haleivi, I do take the easier way out by mostly using Dreamweaver, though I have successfully coded in Notepad as well 🙂December 5, 2013 3:17 pm at 3:17 pm #991448
I thought you knew my style already. If you’re from the other class of (deep) thought, I’ll spell it out: I.t.(space)w.a.s.(space) a.(space)j.o.k.e.(period)December 5, 2013 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #991449
You’re right, I do know your style. Not sure why I didn’t find it funny this time though…maybe cuz I didn’t get it.December 6, 2013 5:30 am at 5:30 am #991450👑RebYidd23Participant
“But” meant that there was no need to describe him when you could just look.December 6, 2013 5:40 am at 5:40 am #991451WIYMember
Well maybe you should see and not ask us. It could be he is fat or overly skinny or very tall or short or has a distinct look. Really you should call this person up and say “I dedicated a whole thread in the cr to your ridiculously vague and derogatory sounding comment of wysiwyg so please elaborate.”December 6, 2013 3:10 pm at 3:10 pm #991452
OK OK!! Lesson taken.
And he can’t be overly skinny or short cuz then my kids won’t stand a chance!July 28, 2017 2:02 pm at 2:02 pm #1328432
Based on the date this thread was started, “what you see is what you get” meant exactly what Poppa said. At least when it came to this boy. We went on 4 dates but, it just wasn’t going anywhere.
Like what Little Froggie said so eloquently I don’t know you personally, but based on how you post I would think you wouldn’t want someone “blah blah blah”. You want someone Rah! Rah!! Rah!!!July 28, 2017 3:18 pm at 3:18 pm #1328577Happy Go Lucky!!Participant
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