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December 25, 2023 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm #2249177square root of 2Participant
It is clear that a good lineage is a ma’alah. See 1st rashi in parashas pinchas, brachos 45a, pesachim (forgot where exactly) invei hagefen beinvei hagefen regarding a kohein that marries a kohenes.
So, being as how a child’s righteousness or wickedness is certainly not contingent on the parent’s, what difference does yichus make?
December 25, 2023 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm #2249196Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantR Dessler – it gets you a higher initial position on a sulam Yaakov, but it is up to you whether you’ll go up or down from there.
December 25, 2023 8:06 pm at 8:06 pm #2249197Sam KleinParticipantIf someone is fortunate to come from a high level yichus family of tzaddikim then more is expected out of him on a higher level than a regular average person.
Someone who comes from the yichus of a family of business building is expected to when getting married build his own company or join his father billion dollar company as a high officer in the company. More is expected out of Jared Kushner not just for the big rich business that Hashem has helped him build but also because he is the son in law of previous president Donald Trump and hopefully future president of 2024 if Mashiach is not here already before then
December 25, 2023 8:07 pm at 8:07 pm #2249198fishParticipantJust the thought of millions of tefillos and tears our forfathers shed that their children and great-great grandchildren till the end of days shall be Talmidei Chachamim and Yirei Shomayim… is good enough a reason to want to marry into a family with Yichus. It means their grandparents were connected to Hashem and knew what was important!
another point is that good Middos travel down to the forcoming generations.
mazel tov and may all those searching find their Bashert easily!December 25, 2023 8:07 pm at 8:07 pm #2249203AviraDeArahParticipantLots of things impact a person’s overall spiritual state. What determines how ‘good’ or ‘bad’ you are is entirely in the realm of bechirah, but the spiritual levels that one attains and/or is born into depend on a lot of other factors – kavanah b’shaaz tashmish, yichus, upbringing, and many others. A kid who is a ben niddah and a mamzer that grows up in a drug home is not born a rasha, and can become a big tzadik by making the right choices, but he is spiritually impaired and has a defect because of his circumstances.
It’s kind of like the difference between a malaach and a person. A malaach is objectively on a highway spiritual plane than a person, but a person is greater because of their ability to reject evil and choose good. So too, a baal yichus is greater in their objective spiritual level, but if they don’t shteig, they are not as good of a person or as important to Hashem as a person born to disadvantageous circumstances who rises above those inhibitions to follow Hashem and His Torah.
December 25, 2023 8:08 pm at 8:08 pm #2249209GadolhadorahParticipantAAQ: Many frum yidden with substantial yichus still don’t endorse Sulam Yaakov dance hierarchy
December 25, 2023 10:21 pm at 10:21 pm #2249230Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantHow it works out in modern social environment. If you see that too many people with yichus turning out to be the most worthy heirs of their fathers, it may be an indication of weakened tradition of merit rather than zechus of yichus,. After all, a teacher in a modern institution may have hundreds of students… if he is a good teacher, it is likely that at least one of that hundred will be better than a son.
December 26, 2023 1:09 am at 1:09 am #2249259DaMosheParticipantThere is a big difference between perceived yichus and just knowing where you came from.
I don’t come from anyone who was a well-known Rav. But I know that my grandparents were amazing people. They were Holocaust survivors who kept their emunah and bitachon. They came to America and built a family of frum, ehrlich people. I wish I’d have a quarter of the faith that they had. To me, that is good yichus.
My Rebbe, R’ Bender, held my grandmother in such high esteem. He still sometimes speaks to me about her, and how amazing she was. I have pictures of him at some of my family’s simchas, where he made sure to go to the women’s side to wish her a Mazal tov. He’d sit at her table just to speak with her for a few minutes.
That’s yichus that is worth something.December 26, 2023 2:54 am at 2:54 am #2249277simcha613ParticipantAs my rebbe says- yichus is like a bunch of zeros. If you’re also a zero, then you just have a string of zeros. But if you’re a 1, and you put that in front of your string of yichus zeros, then you’re ten, or a hundred, or a thousand. Yichus enhances a tzadik, but it doesn’t create one.
December 26, 2023 7:47 am at 7:47 am #2249292commonsaychelParticipant@OP, Any reason you are raising this subject? you seem pretty bitter about it.
December 26, 2023 9:19 am at 9:19 am #2249335Reb EliezerParticipantI heard that about chochma and yirah. Chochma is zeroes and yiirah is one. Yirah has to come first.
December 26, 2023 1:09 pm at 1:09 pm #2249397anonymous JewParticipantLook at Esav’s parents. So much for yichus
December 26, 2023 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #2249427Reb EliezerParticipantThe Mayanei Shel Torah in the name of Rebbi Meir of Premishlan explains, zeh keli veanvehu, if one recognizes Hashem on his own, is beautiful elokei avi vaaromemenhu but if he relies on his father’s accomplishment is only an aggrandizement, gaiva.
December 26, 2023 5:41 pm at 5:41 pm #2249432commonsaychelParticipantTwo things never impressed me, 1 Yichus 2, Money, one was decided by hashem before that person was born and the money was allocated on Rosh Hashanah
December 26, 2023 7:15 pm at 7:15 pm #2249450sechel83Participantthe gemara says that everything a child has comes from either his father or mosher – end of sukah. see also tanya last page of chapter 2, that explains that the livush of the child depends on the holyness of the parents when the child was conceived, but the level of neshama not necessarily. see also raoshis chochma shaar hakdush.
see also sh”u that a child from parents who did not keep taharas hamishpacha can have a pgam in his middos, also the gemara says that if when the child was conceived the parents did not have shalom bayis, destracted by other people, drunk that can effect the middos of a child.
very important who the parents are, but children can always do teshuvah or the opposite. chitas and osios hatorah has a great effect of the neshama even if there is issues with the yichus.December 27, 2023 1:12 am at 1:12 am #2249476LostsparkParticipantBeing in the Soros family, any criticism of Soros is automatically accused of being antisemitism so he must be the ultimate example of a yid.
December 27, 2023 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #2249612LakewoodscoopParticipantI come from huge yichus and I don’t fully understand it. But one thing I know is that I can do huge things with it if I’m a one and add it to all the zeros from the yichus.
Money is fully what hashem decides yichus is also what hashem decides but you can’t change it whether you want or not.
December 27, 2023 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #2249608Reb EliezerParticipantFor this reason a tzadik ben tzadik is greater than a tzadik ben rasha, as one must live up to the father.
December 27, 2023 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm #2249676square root of 2ParticipantThank you avira, Always, and others who offered good answers. To summarize, the classic allegort of someone born on top of a mountain versus someone born at the foot of the mountain.
But then Pinchas, who one way or the other surely was at the top of the mountain, should not have needed his yichus to represent him. Would a better rebuttal of the scoffers have been who he himself was?December 27, 2023 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm #2249677square root of 2Participantsorry to others who also gave good answers but I didn’t mention by name. I didn’t remember everyone by the time I replied, but you still have my gratitude.
December 27, 2023 10:05 pm at 10:05 pm #2249690Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipantcommon: Two things never impressed me,
you and rav Yehuda … I think we discussed how he made fun of someone being introduced based on yichus : if he deserves it, no need to mention it, and if he does not, it is worse for him
I know someone with a great yichus, gradually reducing over generations, and I have a feeling that he would be happier having a different name
December 27, 2023 11:24 pm at 11:24 pm #2249734commonsaychelParticipant@AAQ, I happened to have some pretty heavy yichus, I never made any kiss certain body parts because i had heilger zeides
December 28, 2023 7:44 am at 7:44 am #2249744Always_Ask_QuestionsParticipant> I never made any kiss
that is not the question, the question is – do you sometimes have second thoughts before pressing a submit button – would your zeidy post that?
December 28, 2023 10:54 am at 10:54 am #2249819Reb EliezerParticipantAs my rebbi, a person should constantly say, mosai yagia massai lemasei avosai, when will my deeds reach my father’s deeds.
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