October 6, 2013 2:09 am at 2:09 am #610804
Having grown up in a secular environment, I made several attempts to return tho Judaism. For a long time I have observed very little — Sabbath, Holidays partial kosher and Shema and prayers for food.
I am just beginning Teshuva. I would like to work first on sins for which one receives eternal punishment.October 6, 2013 3:51 am at 3:51 am #977593HaLeiViParticipant
Embarrassing someone publically.October 6, 2013 4:02 am at 4:02 am #977594
I used to be rude to my parents even in public over a decade ago. But not since 2003. Now I have obtained their forgiveness, and I help them in every way possible.
I believe that helping my grandmother and parents will count as a mitsva.October 6, 2013 2:08 pm at 2:08 pm #977595rebdonielMember
There are issurei karet; sins for which a person’s soul gets cut off. Are you talking about those?October 6, 2013 11:03 pm at 11:03 pm #977596
>> There are issurei karet; sins for which a person’s
>> soul gets cut off. Are you talking about those?
I am sorry, I am worried about losing my share in the World to Come.October 6, 2013 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #977597
As a teenager I had a strange idea that I could kill people by looking at them and wishing them ill. I did not realize that my “favorite” 9th grade teacher has retired. During my 10th and 11th grades I was in a great fear.
Even though the fear was strange it did me very much good — I read most of Tanach. I felt horrified by Ahab’s fate.October 6, 2013 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #977598yaff80Participant
I once heard from R’ Shimshon Pincus ZT”L that the worst one is a man having a child with a non-jewish girl as this is irreversible (the child is permanently a non-Jew)whereas anything else can be rectified (heard on a shiur given on leil tisha b’av where he bemoans the churban of this dor – intermarriage)October 7, 2013 12:32 am at 12:32 am #977600cherrybimParticipant
The child can convert when reaching adulthood.October 7, 2013 2:10 am at 2:10 am #977601ShanifirstMember
Wish you much Hatzlacha:)October 7, 2013 2:58 am at 2:58 am #977602seeallsidesParticipant
Don’t obsess. You can do teshuva – it is Hashem’s gift to us – feeling like it can’t be so easy and I will never be able to rectify this sin is just self defeating and will get you down. Think of those feelings as rebellion against Hashem’s wonderful gift. Just try to do the mitzvoth with a happy heart, rejoice that you have found the true way back. Pray that Hashem helps you to do true teshuva and that Hashem sends you the opportunity to do Chesed, for Chesed is an antidote to severe punishments. Wishing you all the best.October 7, 2013 6:49 am at 6:49 am #977603rebdonielMember
Sins for one’s soul get cut off are issurei karet.
Intermarriage, sleeping with a niddah, etc.
And yaffa, my dad intermarried, and his son (me) “converted” (After being reared in the Reform movement) and became Orthodox. HaShem calls to Himself those whom He wishes. I defied Pew Report-style predictable outcomes. Nobody would have ever guessed in a million years that the product of such an intermarriage would become Orthodox (although many don’t consider Modern Orthodoxy or Open Orthodoxy “orthodox” enough, which bears negatively on those making these claims).October 7, 2013 2:51 pm at 2:51 pm #977604oot for lifeParticipant
I believe you may be missing a nuance in Rav Pinchus zt”l. His statement is in the person doing the act. And geris while an incredible undertaking is not an act of teshuva, rather a new bria. You have done a tremendous thing by following the pintl yid that you had some sheichus to. And although your father, i am sure did a tremendous job raising you and putting you in a position where you were able to make incredible and difficult choices for the good, he committed an aveirah as we all do. But we cannot do teshuva for our parents, each person is responsible for themselves.October 7, 2013 8:23 pm at 8:23 pm #977605
>> And yaffa, my dad intermarried, and his son (me)
>> “converted” (After being reared in the Reform
>> movement) and became Orthodox. HaShem calls to
>> Himself those whom He wishes. I defied Pew Report-style
>> predictable outcomes.
Congratulations — that is a great achievement! It is difficult.
According to “A Portrait of Israeli Jews” by the Guttman Center for Surveys of the Israel Democracy Institute, 3% of former Soviet Jews observe meticulously and 15% observe to a great extent.
I have observed very little until recently. Now I realize that I must observe much more.
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