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June 20, 2013 6:54 pm at 6:54 pm #609740brotherofursParticipant
why don’t some people wear them? why is it an issue with tzenius?
June 21, 2013 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm #1034460batsevenParticipantHuh?
I never heard of that in my life. I wear white skirts all the time and as long as its not see through theres nothing wrong with wearing white skirts or even green, pink yellow or blue for that matter
June 21, 2013 6:16 pm at 6:16 pm #1034461alwaysmileParticipantwhy wouldn’t they be?
June 21, 2013 6:33 pm at 6:33 pm #1034462truthsharerMemberIf it’s not black, send it back.
June 21, 2013 8:22 pm at 8:22 pm #1034464farrockgrandmaParticipantWhat is really sad is going to a simcha where all of the women dress in black.
I opened an album from an event 40+ years ago, and all of the strictly orthodox women in attendance were dressed in a rainbow of bright colors.
As for the white skirt, please make sure that it is fully lined or worn with a good slip, and that it is not translucent.
June 21, 2013 9:18 pm at 9:18 pm #1034465ultimateskierMemberI dont know where you’ve been looking but EVERYONE is wearing white skirts lately.
June 21, 2013 9:21 pm at 9:21 pm #1034466OneOfManyParticipantBy lately, do you mean since summer started? I think that’s when everyone starts wearing them every year.
June 21, 2013 9:30 pm at 9:30 pm #1034467yentingyentaParticipantwearing a white skirt reminds me of nursing school. and Pen stains.
Not a good combo.
June 21, 2013 9:56 pm at 9:56 pm #1034468147ParticipantEvery Jewish women is about to be wearing a white skirt & white blouse, 4 times in the next 3 months:-
1) Chamisho Ossor b’Ov
2) 1st day R’H
3) 2nd day R’H
4) Yom haKippurim
BTW I am referring to the last Mishno in Taanis {1&4} so it is absurd to refer to white clothing as ostentatious.
June 21, 2013 9:59 pm at 9:59 pm #1034469ultimateskierMemberYeah theyre very in this summer
June 22, 2013 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm #1034470Shopping613 🌠ParticipantBlack attracts sun…
no one like to be hot!
So duh they r popular in the summer! EVERYONE KNOWS THAT! black on black for winter and whit on white for summer….of course with a shirt over the shell
June 23, 2013 2:56 am at 2:56 am #1034471147ParticipantI hope & trust that my white straw hat is Tzonua?
June 23, 2013 4:06 am at 4:06 am #1034472Torah613TorahParticipantI just bought one on Friday. I think it’s pretty tzanuah. 🙂
That’s like saying all Kallah dresses are not tzanuah.
June 24, 2013 3:41 am at 3:41 am #1034473Ayayashreichem24ParticipantWell since black is the epitome of tznius, I assume that white, which is the opposite, should be completely assur.
August 4, 2014 4:07 am at 4:07 am #1034474Patur Aval AssurParticipantPesachim 109a:
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Kesubos 71a-71b:
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Rashi there:
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We see that women should be wearing colorful clothing.
August 4, 2014 4:21 am at 4:21 am #1034475👑RebYidd23ParticipantI know a lot of people who have never worn skirts. And a woman who is allergic to bees should not wear brightly colored skirts in the summer.
August 4, 2014 12:10 pm at 12:10 pm #1034476Sam2ParticipantPAA: I do not think that means what you think it means.
Torah (haven’t seen you post in a while but I’ll address this to you anyway): One of my cousins was at a Chassidish/Chareidi wedding in E”Y and he said the Kallah wore a black wedding dress. He asked the Chassan what Pshat was and he said that she felt uncomfortable wearing white because it’s not Tznius.
August 4, 2014 2:28 pm at 2:28 pm #1034477ariele (Joseph)Participantsam2, is there any particular reason jewish brides wear a white dress?
August 4, 2014 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm #1034478Sam2ParticipantIf I had to guess, I would say it’s based on the same reasons Goyim started-and it’s a Gemara in Kesubos.
August 4, 2014 3:53 pm at 3:53 pm #1034480Patur Aval AssurParticipant“PAA: I do not think that means what you think it means.”
Are you referring to the Gemara in Kesubos or the Gemara in Yevamos? The Gemara in Kesubos is talking about nedarim that are inuy nefesh and one of those listed is a neder about abstaining from wearing colored clothing. Rashi is explaining that abstaining from colored clothing is a genai and a bizayon to her and makes her degraded* to her husband.
The Gemara in Pesachim is saying that colored clothing is mesameach women. See also the hakdama to the Levush where he explains that he entitled the volume dealing with hilchos nashim “Levush Tachrich Habutz V’ha’argaman” because
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*for lack of a better word
August 4, 2014 4:34 pm at 4:34 pm #1034481ariele (Joseph)Participantsam2, so its because the goyim started dressing brides in white or it is because of the talmud in kesubos? (or do you mean the goyim wear it because of what the talmud says??)
August 4, 2014 5:11 pm at 5:11 pm #1034482springbirdMemberWIth questions like this…….It’s no wonder so many are going off the derech.
August 4, 2014 5:15 pm at 5:15 pm #1034483Sam2ParticipantPAA: Bigdei Tzivonim does not translate to “colored clothing”.
August 4, 2014 5:29 pm at 5:29 pm #1034484👑RebYidd23ParticipantA black wedding dress is certainly inappropriate, but white makes women look bad.
August 4, 2014 5:31 pm at 5:31 pm #1034485ariele (Joseph)Participanti asked my teacher and was told sam2 is correct that jewish brides wear a white dress because of the talmud in kesubas while the goyim started doing so much later than us.
August 4, 2014 5:53 pm at 5:53 pm #1034486mghanooniMemberAccording to wikipedia white wedding dresses and veils are a relatively newer concept for the Western world:
The tradition of a white wedding is commonly credited to Queen Victoria’s choice to wear a white wedding dress at her wedding to Prince Albert in 1840.
Royal brides before Victoria did not typically wear white, instead choosing “heavy brocaded gowns embroidered with white and silver thread,” with red being a particularly popular colour in Western Europe more generally.
Although women were required to wear veils in many churches through at least the 19th century, the resurgence of the wedding veil as a symbol of the bride, and its use even when not required by the bride’s religion, coincided with societal emphasis on women being modest and well-behaved.
August 4, 2014 7:37 pm at 7:37 pm #1034487bais yakov maidelParticipantI think that nitpicking on what “exaaaaactly” is and is not tznius…. is not tznius.
August 4, 2014 7:38 pm at 7:38 pm #1034488Patur Aval AssurParticipantSam2:
“colorful clothing” perhaps not; “colored clothing” yes. I was not so precise in my first comment, but in my second comment I was. Perhaps what you mean is that I don’t necessarily have a raya because in Talmudic times “colored clothing” was chashuv because of the cost and work of dyeing it whereas nowadays it’s not.
August 4, 2014 7:51 pm at 7:51 pm #1034489Sam2ParticipantPAA: Still no. I really, really don’t think it means colorful clothing. It means something else entirely.
August 4, 2014 8:39 pm at 8:39 pm #1034490Patur Aval AssurParticipantSam2:
I agree that it doesn’t mean colorful clothing. But that is not the same thing as colored clothing.
See for example the Aruch Laner Sukkah 10a:
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But if we’re still not talking to each other, maybe you should say what you think it means.
August 4, 2014 8:57 pm at 8:57 pm #1034491Sam2ParticipantPAA: I highly doubt it would pass moderation (it shouldn’t), but that should give you some indication of what it means.
August 4, 2014 9:52 pm at 9:52 pm #1034492bais yakov maidelParticipantnot that I personally mind this discussion, but for those who are “super-senstitive” to tznius, this is exactly what I meant about these discussion not being tzanua… as Sam2 tries to evade what exactly what that form of “clothing” is referring to
August 4, 2014 10:36 pm at 10:36 pm #1034493Patur Aval AssurParticipantSam2:
I don’t think that’s what it means in general contexts.
bais yakov maidel:
I don’t know if your comment was directed at me, but I am not discussing in terms of tznius.
August 4, 2014 10:40 pm at 10:40 pm #1034494Sam2Participantbym: Disagree. There’s no lack of Tznius in explaining Pshat in a Gemara. It’s just not so comfortable in a public setting.
I remember a friend once telling me about a Daf Yomi Shiur he attended. He said that there were a few lines that the Rabbi told them “read the Artscroll, it’s inappropriate to say out loud”. Which is, of course, absurd, arrogant, and ridiculous. If Chazal thought to write it down for us, it’s appropriate to learn.
August 4, 2014 11:39 pm at 11:39 pm #1034495yentachayaParticipant@sam2 I 100% agree! What it says in Gemara is not just there to be learned: it’s important to be learned!! It SHOULD be learned. And not in a way that makes people feel uncomfortable about it.
As for this discussion, any article of clothing can be worn in a tzniusdik or non-tzniusdik way. It’s all in the way it’s worn. I once saw 2 girls at a wedding wearing the same dress; one looked so eidel and refined, the other one did not (I won’t elaborate, considering the public forum here). Tznius isn’t about inches, styles, colors… It’s about how you wear your clothing, if you’re trying to attract attention or if you’re wearing it for the right reasons.
August 5, 2014 12:09 am at 12:09 am #1034496JosephParticipantbym: Sam is correct. There isn’t anything wrong with discussing the particulars of the various legal parameters required to fulfil this obligation. In fact it is a necessary topic.
August 10, 2014 3:38 am at 3:38 am #1034498147ParticipantI am wearing my white outfit all day tomorrow Chamisho Ossor b’Ov:- May all we White dressers this Chamisho Ossor b’Ov be Zochos to quickly & speedily get to our Chuppo.
August 10, 2014 4:42 am at 4:42 am #1034499yeshivaguy45Participant147, It could be you’re in Eretz Yisroel. Tu b’Av is on Monday.
August 10, 2014 4:55 am at 4:55 am #1034500Sam2ParticipantPAA: I’m pretty sure that is exactly what it means in all contexts. Which, according to R’ Akiva Eiger’s Hava Amina, makes a fascinating Chiluk between single and married women repeating Bentsching on Yom Tov is they forget Ya’aleh V’yavo.
August 10, 2014 6:04 am at 6:04 am #1034501JosephParticipantSam, do single women tend to forget yaale vyovo or is it married women who tend to forget?
August 10, 2014 7:00 am at 7:00 am #1034502yentachayaParticipantI’m in Eretz Yisrael! Maybe I should wear white tomorrow.
August 10, 2014 7:15 am at 7:15 am #1034503mobicoParticipantSam2 – Bigdei Tziv’onim, in a general sense, definitely means colored clothing. This is clear in many places in Shas.
And in terms of the general topic, I agree with many others – as long as one makes absolutely certain that it is not translucent in any way, then there is certainly no Tzenius issue. The aforementioned bride was misguided, as she acted contrary to Minhag Yisrael.
August 10, 2014 12:51 pm at 12:51 pm #1034504JosephParticipantMobico, which and whose minhag yisroel? Where is this brought down and how old is it?
August 10, 2014 1:17 pm at 1:17 pm #1034506oomisParticipantThe only problem with a white skirt, is keeping it clean-looking. Anything else negative that has been written, is over-thinking the tznius issue. It SHOULD be lined, or with a good slip, to prevent it from becoming see-through.
August 10, 2014 1:35 pm at 1:35 pm #1034507old manParticipantMyturnatbat:
White does not attract the eye. Reflection and absorption here is irrelevant, as is snowblindness.
In answer to your question, yes, I am an expert in the field.
August 10, 2014 1:44 pm at 1:44 pm #1034508old manParticipantMyturnatbat:
White does not attract the eye. Reflection and absorption here is irrelevant, as is snowblindness.
In answer to your question, yes, I am an expert in the field.
August 10, 2014 2:18 pm at 2:18 pm #1034509Patur Aval AssurParticipant“Which, according to R’ Akiva Eiger’s Hava Amina, makes a fascinating Chiluk between single and married women repeating Bentsching on Yom Tov is they forget Ya’aleh V’yavo.”
Are you referring to ‘??”? ??? ????? ???? ????? ??”? ???? ??
August 10, 2014 2:29 pm at 2:29 pm #1034510147Participantyeshivaguy45:- FYI I am an orthodox Jewess, so I strictly adhere to the Jewish calendar and take no notice of the secular calendar, hence when I sent my previous message to the coffee room, it was Ov 14th, & not 13th, since I am a Shabbos observer.
August 10, 2014 3:01 pm at 3:01 pm #1034512Sam2ParticipantPAA: Every set of T’shuvos R’ Akiva Eiger numbers them differently. It’s 1:1 in mine.
PBA: Really? That’s not her fault. Don’t wonder, don’t stare. She’s not causing you to stare by keeping her clothes clean. Assume she washes them and move on. I won’t say that’s the most ridiculous Tznius thing I’ve heard (because I’ve heard plenty more ridiculous ones), but it’s just stupid.
August 10, 2014 5:19 pm at 5:19 pm #1034513Patur Aval AssurParticipant“PAA: Every set of T’shuvos R’ Akiva Eiger numbers them differently. It’s 1:1 in mine.”
That’s the same as mine.
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