March 13, 2015 2:09 pm at 2:09 pm #615152flowersParticipant
Is it reasonable for parents to expect their working daughter to pay for her own clothes?March 13, 2015 2:42 pm at 2:42 pm #1065432gavra_at_workParticipant
Yes.March 13, 2015 2:46 pm at 2:46 pm #1065433
It’s not so important what we think.
What is important is what the parents and daughter think, and how they communicate with each other about it.March 13, 2015 2:49 pm at 2:49 pm #1065434Little FroggieParticipant
<<Just for Fun>>
No, not at all. Parents have the obligation, responsibility (right) to shop, CHOOSE and pay for daughters’ clothing.
<<Hiding>>March 13, 2015 3:18 pm at 3:18 pm #1065435akupermaParticipant
It might be better for the parents to pay her living expenses, and that she saves 90% of her disposable income. If she is barely an adult, she has a lot of expenses ahead of her and needs to learn frugality.March 13, 2015 3:31 pm at 3:31 pm #1065436🐵 ⌨ GamanitParticipant
When I was a working teen, my parents paid for all my needs. My wants I had to pay out of my own pocket. This included any extra clothing, cd player, camp, etc. I ended up buying most clothing myself.March 13, 2015 5:15 pm at 5:15 pm #1065437owlMember
It’s good for her to pay.March 15, 2015 7:21 am at 7:21 am #1065438the plumberMember
Let me guess, you used to walk 20 miles to the schoolhouse at the top if the hill barefoot and you cant understand why a kid nowadays cant do the same.
As any good gathering of zeidies would say “kids nowadays”
This is not a question for the cr. some of my friends continue to FULLY support their children, while others do less and less. Its up to you. My opinion to your chinuch is irrelevant.March 15, 2015 7:51 am at 7:51 am #1065439
The plumber, what kind of zeide is Gamanit to have had a CD player as a teen?March 15, 2015 9:23 am at 9:23 am #1065440BarryLS1Participant
It depends on age and situation. I know some very wealthy people that make their children work to pay for their things so they would have an appreciation for what they have and not just expect everything to be handed to them.
When our daughters returned from Seminary and worked, we covered all their expenses, provided they saved their money for when they got married. If they wasted it on nonsense, we wouldn’t have done so. B”H, we had responsible kids, so we weren’t worried about them being spoiled.March 15, 2015 9:45 pm at 9:45 pm #1065441–Participant
The plumber, what kind of zeide is Gamanit to have had a CD player as a teen?
Someone who had a CD player as a teen could be as old as 53 (if my math is correct).March 17, 2015 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1065442flowersParticipant
DaasYochid and plumber. I am not asking your advice for you to tell me what to do. I think it’s completely fine to ask what others do and what they think should be done before or even after one has decided for themselves what they think is correct and what they think will work for them.March 17, 2015 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm #1065443
It’s fine, it’s just not helpful. We don’t know you, and you don’t know us, so taking our approaches into account is not really any better than flipping a coin to make your decision.March 17, 2015 3:16 pm at 3:16 pm #1065444Little FroggieParticipant
OK. I hear:
OP1: Is it reasonable to …
OP2: I am not asking you advice…
Everyone, welcome to the CR!!March 17, 2015 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #1065445
LF, finish the sentence. I am not asking your advice for you to tell me what to do.March 18, 2015 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm #1065446GoldilocksParticipant
By the way, Dash, I am in my 30s and when I was a teen I didn’t have a CD player – but I did have a record player and I loved it!
I got my first CD player after I was married.
So there!March 18, 2015 10:08 pm at 10:08 pm #1065447
Flowers is asking for opinions, not advise.
(is the calculation about the age based on when the CD player was invented, or when it first became popular?)March 19, 2015 6:45 am at 6:45 am #1065448–Participant
(is the calculation about the age based on when the CD player was invented, or when it first became popular?)
When it became available for purchase.March 19, 2015 11:59 am at 11:59 am #1065449TheGoqParticipant
I lived with my parents while i worked a good job and was able to save quite a bit not having to pay rent although i was responsible for the (shut your eyes here!) cable bill, I don’t recall paying for my clothing during this period but I was not a fashion plate either.March 19, 2015 1:58 pm at 1:58 pm #1065450oomisParticipant
I think it is a good lesson for teens to earn money towards the things they want to buy for themselves, while still basically being supported by the parents for food, shelter and NECESSARY clothing. If the daughter is no longer a teen, she should pay her own way vis a vis clothing,and other incidentals, especially if she is not paying rent and utilities. She definitely should pay for her phone bills. This hopefully gives her the incentive to spend wisely.
My dad gave part of his paycheck to his parents, to help pay for the household expenses, from the first day that he began working.
I think that many of today’s generation often seem to feel entitled in many respects, so it is a good idea for all working sons and daughters to put SOMETHING tzu shteier towards the home expenses, and certainly for their own. It is never a good thing for someone to get a totally free ride. JMO.March 19, 2015 5:39 pm at 5:39 pm #1065451
When did CD players become affordable for teenagers?March 19, 2015 5:49 pm at 5:49 pm #1065452
RY23, I would say early to mid 90s.
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