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I went to a wedding some time ago, and me and my friends ALL noticed how very strange it was- the chatan/chosson did not look at his Kallah through the whole wedding, even under the chupah- it was weird…they might be yeshivish but its just weird!!
( and it had nothing to do with any kind of suspicious stuff, plain and simply he didnt look at his kallah, almost ina snobby way)
usually after the chuppa they look at each other for a minute. nothing can compare to that one minute look. its pure bliss
Umm, why most he noticeably “look” at his Kallah in front of everyone? Yidden don’t show public displays of love or affection.
Maybe ur coming from a different angle, howver,from other perspectives this is well understood,look at the story of Avrohom and Soro!
One of many reasons y the kallah walks around the Chasan is she he could “look” at her and her characteristics and “know” its her and not to be tricked like by Yaakov Avinu
More importantly, you (seem to have only) seen it once. What’s the big deal?
The poor child was probably dead nervous and stagefright.
legen-dary,
Didnt he pickup the veil to see if its her?
“Even by dancing when the kallah sat in the men section and she was trying to talk to him, he looked away with disintrest, it looked strange, rude and mean.”
yes – that does sound very strange! i hoped he’s looked at her since then. otherwise i feel very sorry for her.
Legen-dary
I hope you were just overinternalizing. Maybe he was a little nervous or uncomfortable to display his true feelings in public.
I CAN SAY SOOOO MUCH
….BUT ILL JUST SHUT-UP NOW!
I also saw something similar once, and the emes is the marriage broke up within a few months. I am thinking the chosson in that case felt guilty about going through with the wedding when he was very conflicted about marrying her. Hope that was not what happened in your scenario.
love a yid-say it say it! im so curious 🙂
Legen-dary, your description of this chasan sounds like my husbands’ type of personality. He definately acts very shy and modest and humble and temimesdik in public. For example, in public he will not lean close in to me when we’re talking, he stands at a distance.
During our chuppa and mitzva tanse he did not look at me either. Its a modesty thing.
What’s the question? Why I’m not looking at my Kallah?
Simple, she’s 100 miles up north in the pool, I’m down here in the sweltering sun shvitzing (and posting).
maybe you didnt see everything or are over reacting. i would say that if they are happily married dont ever ever say anything.
Perhaps he does not yet realize how fortunate he is.
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