Why I am no longer frum

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    Several years ago, I moved from an out of town community for the purpose of shiduchim. As a successful professional, I was wooed by several minyanim who for obvious reasons would want me as a member. After trying the various shukl, I became a member in the one I was most confortable with; A chashuv baal batish shule with several hundred members.

    In good times, I contributed generously to the shule. But the economy soured, and so did my practice. Subsequently, I came down with an illness which precludes me from coming to Shule.

    It’s been three months now; noone called to find out how I am or why I don’t come to Shule. In my opinion, the silence speaks volumes and I have lost my faith.


    unfortuantly that is life, people go about their day to day lives and forget about the others they pass on the way. its not fair and its not right and it hurts unbeleiably,but dont loose faith and dont judge Hashem and His thruthfelness on a few hundren people who are arent the smartest they are human,being frum is your love and trust in Hashem no matter what happens from Him or He sends to you through others. im sorry you are sick and i do hope you have a complete refuah physicaly and with your practice.

    I know this isnt what you would want ot hear when hurting but,honestly think to yourself if it happend to another person you knew in the shul would you relaly noticed,have the number,know them to call? dont walk away bcause of the silence,learn how to better yourslef from it


    God, what a lesson to all of us. That is so horrible. I don’t blame you.

    I’m not going to preach because I don’t know if I wouldn’t do the same in your place…I hope you feel better and people grow some hearts.


    Maybe they didn’t know your phone number? Everyone needs to work on connections. I’ve been to shuls from outside my neighborhood and people noticed that I was new there and welcomed me to the area. On the other hand, if you want people to know you, you can’t just show up in shul. There are lots of people who want to have guests over for shabbos but you have to show initiative and contact them.

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