Why Should I Pay for your Limo
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March 7, 2019 12:06 pm at 12:06 pm #16909391Participant
Whenever you go to a wedding, you’ll notice friends of the chosson hitting up everyone for money to pay for the limo that will take newlyweds, from the hall to their destination. Last I checked, a limo is a luxury. Before you play the cheap card, I give to yeshivos, shuls, cursed funds, etc. Why should I pay for the limo? Aren’t there parents and in laws who negotiate this stuff? Who says going in a limo is a Jewish thing? And, not everyone gets a limo ride from their wedding.March 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691004lowerourtuition11210Participant
Nornally the Chosson friends pay (i don’t know why). I have never been asked to chip in. I personally drove home from my chasunah.March 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691008Frumshmurda718Participant
Are u mentally stableMarch 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691014
I never heard of the friends of the choson soliciting funds to pay for the limo. The chasanim that use a limo generally pay for it themselves or from their parents.March 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691015
The limo indeed is a luxury. So are most things that occur at weddings today.March 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691021whitecarParticipant
Misameach chosson vekallahMarch 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691023WinnieThePoohParticipant
Forget the limo. I’m curious why you give to funds that are cursed.March 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691041ubiquitinParticipant
So dont pay, whats the problem?
” Who says going in a limo is a Jewish thing?”
simchos chasan vekallah is a Jewish thing
though you probably should stop giving to cursed fundsMarch 7, 2019 2:11 pm at 2:11 pm #1691043rationalParticipant
I try not to give to funds that are cursed, it’s not a good investment. A better investment is to proofread before pressing the “Submit” buttonMarch 7, 2019 2:12 pm at 2:12 pm #1691061bk613Participant
Friends don’t give wedding gifts (when they are younger) Collecting for a limo has become a way for friends who are generally in yeshiva and not working to give their friend a gift. To the best of my knowledge it is not a universal practice. I’ve been to many weddings where someone was collecting, and many (including my own) where no one was collecting. No one forces you to give. Whats makes it not Jewish? The fact that it’s a luxury isn’t relevant. Many aspects of todays weddings can be considered luxuries.March 7, 2019 2:56 pm at 2:56 pm #1691092👑RebYidd23Participant
The fact that it’s a luxury is the reason to do it. The wedding day is one day on which it is traditional to treat the choson and kallah like royalty.March 7, 2019 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #1691101☕️coffee addictParticipant
My wife’s brother paid for oursMarch 7, 2019 3:38 pm at 3:38 pm #1691154
A melech and a malka should be driven in style.
Is it lip service to say chosson domeh l’melech?
A levayeh is stopped to allow the chosson-kallah entourage to pass!
You think the chosson should drive the kallak himself in the beat up family-car?!
A melech and a malka gets chauffeured in a limo!
And while we are at it – rabbonim are also called melochim (‘maan malka – rabbonon), so every rov and rosh yeshiva should be driven in a limo like royalty, but in this WE lack the acceptance of rabbonon as melochim. That’s OUR chisoron, and the rabbonim don’t expect too much of us, so they are mochel. [Not sure about din of ‘melech she’mochal al kivodo’ if it applies to rabbonim or chassanim].
For a moment I thought you were talking about the limos for the bochurim collecting on purim getting driven around in a limo. Now THAT is another whole ball of bees wax.
But that is v’na’hapoch hu – the bochurim are chauffeured in limos while the rosh yeshiva drives around in a jalopy.March 7, 2019 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm #1691176☕ DaasYochid ☕Participant
A better investment is to proofread before pressing the “Submit” button
Meh. It’s a CR comment, not a legal brief or a paper being submitted to a medical journal.
Some typos or autocorrected words are funny, but the one who wrote it didn’t do anything wrong.March 7, 2019 4:21 pm at 4:21 pm #1691187zahavasdadParticipant
Im with the OP, its a waste, I drove home in my car from my wedding. What better way to start a new life than drive your new Kallah homeMarch 7, 2019 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm #1691188akupermaParticipant
Among goyim that is the last time anyone sees them for a week or more as they go off to some place else for a “honeymoon”. Halacha doesn’t allow for a “honeymoon”, so their friends see them frequently the next week at “Sheva Brachos”. The limosine is tied to their custom of the couple departing the community, and has no relevance in our’s. It’s arguably in the class of “two ring ceremonies” or raunchy “bachelor parties”, that is not merely alien to our traditions, but contrary to halacha.March 7, 2019 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #1691195
Akup, Excuse me, but since when is “two ring ceremonies” or “bachelor parties contrary to halacha?? We actually do them, BUT in a kosher yiddisheh way! IT has long been a Jewish custom to have a “bachelor” AND “bachelorette” party, except we call it “Shabbos Ofruf” an “Shabbos Kallah”! It is also a custom among many that the Kallah and Chosson exchange gifts in the yichud room. And indeed, we DO have a “honeymoon” – seven days of simcha with friends and relatives showering us with sheva brochos and unlimited speeches. We do all this our way, and l’havdil, the goyim do it their way.March 7, 2019 5:10 pm at 5:10 pm #1691204
Dad of Zahava, “What better way to start a new life than drive your new Kallah home” – a chosson is technically pottur from kriyas shema because he is so distracted. Do you want this distracted driver driving on the road – and with his kallah, no less?March 7, 2019 5:26 pm at 5:26 pm #1691259
Akup, guess what – you can start tying everything to goyish customs: the wedding gown – goyish brides wear them, so let’s nix it. The wedding music – mamash goyish (even a question if music is muttar after the churban!). The photograper – oy, is that halacha l’moshe mi’sinai? We can make it all goyish and alien to our traditions, but then what? DO you know if traditionally – before the automobile, the chosson kallah did not leave weddings in a horse drawn carriage?March 7, 2019 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm #1691314ubiquitinParticipant
“that is not merely alien to our traditions, but contrary to halacha.”
I love it
Lol good one
Freilichen AdarMarch 7, 2019 7:19 pm at 7:19 pm #1691329whitecarParticipant
If i didnt have a limo, no one should have a limoMarch 7, 2019 7:56 pm at 7:56 pm #1691357ZionGateParticipant
Re: Sheva Brochos and unlimited speeches.
Now you’re talkin’. Frankly, if I don’t hear another Sheva Brochos speech for the rest of my life, it’ll still be too soon.March 7, 2019 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm #1691367
Some hold that the unlimited speeches at sheva brochos is like breaking the glass at the chupah – a bit of availus zecher l’churbon.March 7, 2019 8:20 pm at 8:20 pm #1691370MilhouseParticipant
Whenever you go to a wedding, you’ll notice friends of the chosson hitting up everyone for money to pay for the limo that will take newlyweds, from the hall to their destination.
I have been to many weddings and never once seen or heard of such a thing.March 7, 2019 8:38 pm at 8:38 pm #1691387
Milhouse, that makes two of us.March 7, 2019 9:33 pm at 9:33 pm #1691413
“I have never been asked to chip in.”
“I have been to many weddings and never once seen or heard of such a thing.”
“that makes two of us.”
Only the chosson’s friends!
Sorry to say, the chosson doesn’t consider you among his friends.March 7, 2019 10:58 pm at 10:58 pm #1691418LucyParticipant
Minhag of chossons friends paying for limo is done by the more chilled crowd, and is relatively recent.
This explains why some of u have never heard of it.
Its definitely not yeshivish.
Imho the chossons should be a man and figure out himself how theyre leaving the weddingMarch 7, 2019 11:21 pm at 11:21 pm #1691437
Is the chilled crowd the same as the tuna beigel crowd?March 8, 2019 1:05 am at 1:05 am #1691452funnyboneParticipant
A chosson has to say krias shema. No excuses.March 8, 2019 1:05 am at 1:05 am #1691454GadolhadorahParticipant
Most Simcha halls would prefer that the chosson/kalah not have to spend the night sleeping in the yichud room (which is furnished with a small uncomfortable couch at best) so the mashgiach will gladly drop them off at a nearby hotel or their new apartment on his way home after the last guests have left.March 8, 2019 1:05 am at 1:05 am #1691457Avi KParticipant
הכנסת כלה is actually הכנסה קלה.March 8, 2019 7:28 am at 7:28 am #1691478March 8, 2019 7:52 am at 7:52 am #1691485USnebechParticipant
Thanks for the laughMarch 8, 2019 7:52 am at 7:52 am #1691486USnebechParticipant
Hilarious!March 8, 2019 11:39 am at 11:39 am #1691542
Lucy — can you please define the difference(s) between the chilled crowd and the tuna beigel crowd?
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