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Sparkly – You’re welcome! And thanks for the positive feedback!!! Appreciation is nice! 🙂
Hatzlacha in all your endeavors!
When the guys do come back, you might want to think of one gvul to set for yourself as a New Year’s Resolution. Make sure it is small and easy enough that you can keep to it.
That’s just a suggestion – do what you feel is best for you.
Hatzlacha with the new semester!
Sparkly – If he is a nice frum Jewish boy who doesn’t like talking to girls, then do him a favour and don’t talk to him!
Lilmod – Thank you for your wonderful explanations. You do seem to have sensible, practical advice, and we appreciate that. My comments before were not intended as advice; I would never read something like that into somebodys question. I guess I’ve been in the CR long enough to decide [with a healthy dose of cynicism] when a poster truly wants the advice I can give, or when I don’t think its necessary.
yekke2 – the guy i asked about is a good frum boy who tries not talking to girls he ONLY knows me thru my brother.
Sparkly – I’m sure you wrote above that a boy can still be frum even if he talks to girls, and that there is nothing wrong with male/female social interaction?
yekke2: “Sparkly – I’m sure you wrote above that a boy can still be frum even if he talks to girls, and that there is nothing wrong with male/female social interaction?”
I heard a story about a professor who taught something that contradicted something he had taught 50 years before. When that was pointed out to him, he said, “Good. So I’m a growing person, and I don’t remain stuck where I was 50 years ago.”
Maybe Sparkly doesn’t believe in standing still and she has grown since she wrote the last post.
(yekke2, please take this post the way it is meant and not as a criticism/contradiction to your post)
Goodness, why didn’t you say you are ready to marry of him? That does change everything.
Incidentally, it is also assur for a boy who “keeps shomer” to interact socially with girls.
Sparkly – It’s great that you are looking for a guy who is shomer. Amongst other things, you have a better chance of having a good marriage that way!
can you say hi to a guy that your family friends with at college?
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especially since his in a typical yeshiva and technically a typical frum boy but he loves doing stuff that mo boys do without breaking shomer, or hanging out with girls!
Sparkly: “lilmod ulelamaid – yes it is! especially since his in a typical yeshiva and technically a typical frum boy but he loves doing stuff that mo boys do without breaking shomer, or hanging out with girls! so its exactly what i need! so its a perfect shidduch!”
Sounds great! Are we still talking about your brother’s friend whom you wanted to know if you could say hello to?
Yekke2- I have never spoken to you but from these posts I have to say I loveee your answers and how bluntly you state them. Right on chabibi!!
Sparkly- I’m taking out a point that no one touched upon as of yet. You say that you would want it to be a shidduch for u .that meqns u have feelings for this guy. I don’t think saying hi is assur but you might be doing it in a flirtatious way or trying to Catch his attention being that u like him.
HGG – Thank you. I generally try not to be so blunt, but I need to keep the balance here. Lilmoid Ulelameid is one of the nicest posters i’ve seen here, and she seems determined to read the best into everything. Doing so requires taking everything on absolute face value. I’m just balancing things out by reading between the lines a bit, and at times, speaking between the lines…
I think Syag thinks I was too direct, which is bad, because Syag is generally right about these things </sad face>…
Yekke2: “Lilmoid Ulelameid is one of the nicest posters i’ve seen here”
Thanks! 🙂
Sparkly – well why are you there? Maybe they are there for the same reasons.
For your sake, I’m glad that there are so many Frum girls in your college. I had thought you were in a goyish out-of-town college, so I hadn’t expected that!
Who said anything about boarding? I thought you lived in an apartment or something.
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