Yated interview with "the Shadchan"

I read this interview in the Yated with this Lakewood Shadchan. I’d like to discuss some of his points. As far as whether there is a crisis or not -he really doesn’t give an opinion, but he says the Gedolim’s Kol Koray have made the situation worse. Why? Because he says now the girls and their families are very nervous/concerned that the girl won’t get married and this forces them not to do as much checking as they would like.

IMHO, this is a good thing because as it is people are way too picky and sometimes focus on things that really aren’t important in life.

He also says that the Kol Koray has made the boys more picky which he thinks adds to the problems. They pick and choose from any age group. My question is why aren’t they enforcing dating basically around the same age? Lakewood enforces a time of non-dating called the “freezer” -they can also push the Shadchanim and boys to heed the Gedolim and try to date girls around the same age.

And finally he says people should have more Emunah in Hashem to find their Zivug. He quotes the Gra that says you need No Histadlus what-so-ever to find your Shidduch, but then he says Rav S.Z. Aurebach zt’l says it means minimum Histadlus.

To me this is hypocrisy at its’ finest. The whole idea of using a professional Shadchan is a lack of Bitochon to some degree and even if you say it’s just making Histadlus -this wouldn’t be called minimum Histadlus, but major Histadlus. An example of minimum Histadlus would be asking your friends, family, neighbors if they know anyone for you, Not using Professional Shadchunim!