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Schools do not insist on meds, they insist on an evaluation and if the evaluation recommends meds, some schools will insist that the recommendation be followed so that the learning of the other kids in the class is not inhibited. By all means, if you don’t like the system, create another one, but you can’t put a kid in the current system without giving him the tools he needs to be successful within the system that you have placed him.
What is better to go with for cheap android phones; gentech or netspark?July 23, 2017 11:46 am at 11:46 am in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322955
The way I was attacked for my post and accused of not having credentials without you even knowing who I am, is very telling. My point wasn’t to deny that there is an issue with bullying, of course there is. My point was only to caution that in my experience, there are parents who themselves ruin their children by referring to incidents that don’t come close to bullying as bullying. This too could do detrimental damage to a child socially. Again, I am not G-d forbid denying that bullying exists and that it is terribly damaging, I am only cautioning readers not jump to conclusions in other instances, as that could also damage their child. If it is real bullying, in our school we do everything possible to put an end to it as should every institution.July 22, 2017 11:32 pm at 11:32 pm in reply to: ANOTHER shocking LETTER published IN the VOICE of LAKEWOOD #1322767
As an elementary school mechanech, I must caution everyone that for every parent out there who have real reason to be concerned (and there are enough of those out there), there are is also a parent of a child who is imagining something is happening that really isn’t or a parent who is blowing out of proportion a problem that needs to be addressed, but does not need to be dealt with using atomic measures. Never the less these parents will hound the school to the detriment of their own child and the other children in their child’s class.
As a the wife of a rebbe of the graduating class in a prominent yeshiva and myself a long time mechaneches I’d like to respectfully tell you that the letter writer is right on the mark and the rest of you are totally off.
1. The idea of rewarding people for their IQ has 0 to do with kinas sofrim, and let’s face it that’s what most awards are for. If effort and persistance were being rewarded I’d be all for it but even then we would need to measure the effort put in relative to the student’s own ability in that regard and not someone else’s. For example a student capable of 90% effort who puts in all 90% should get the award and not the student capable of 100% effort who puts in 95%.
2. As far as students learning to live with being second fiddle, trust me, these students who are not at the top have been learning this important life lesson day in and day out for many long years (e.g. when the teacher is asking questions in the class or returning tests etc) by the time they graduate and they do not need that one last big slap of busha in the face by graduation.
3. The awards don’t serve our awardees well either. They (and their parents)are blown up into baalei gaava who think way too much of themselves.
My husbands yeshiva has done away with awards and instead chooses a few wholesome all around solid bochurim to speak.