MrAC

I think you’re making a large leap in saying that being yeshivish is the ideal form of Judaism.
There are many out of town modern communities that follow halacha in my opinion more closely than the lakewood standard, and they focus on halacha more than chumra.
Yeshivish people who call others Harry’s are clearly not focused on the Halachic and societal ramifications of their message.
A true ben torah, ben alia, baal yiras shomayim may be more common in the yeshivish and chasidishe world, but to say that being a member of a yeshivish community makes one an ideal jew would be wrong.