dear yitz, i have read over 10 self help books and all i gained was knowledge (and yes i followed the books exercise instructions) ,i went to different therapist for years the only thing i gained wasknoledge but nothing really improved at best my situation was contained(one postive was that i had someone to hear me out).Being that i am from a traditional background and a traditional community every one would look at me in a funny manner if i took pills and i wouldn’t be set up through the sidduch system to someone (average ) i have also heard of horror stories of people on these sect of pills and my self esteem will go lower then it already is if i take pills being that in my head i am going to say i am crazy cause i cant control my own feelings and dependent on meds. (to conclude i will never take pills)