Jax, but your home is probably like a hotel... ;)
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Pesach - Staying Home vs. Going Away
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Posted 2 years ago #
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kapusta: actually some do say that! we give weekly tours!
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I loved having the sedar at home vs. a hotel. So quiet!
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We had a very interesting Pesach. I had invited a couple whose grown children were all away for Pesach to come to both sedarim. I have done this for several years now - it is not so easy for the wife to prepare for the sedarim anymore. They live within walking distance, but it is hard for the wife to walk too much, so she was dropped off by car before we bensched licht, and had a wheelchair to use for the walk home. Unfortunately, the wheelchair turned out to be not in the best state of repair, and she could not sit in it, so she ended actually walking home holding onto the wheelchair for some support. By the middle of the night she was in terrible pain from back and leg ailments from the walking, and her husband came by to tell us that there was unfortunately no way she could walk over for the second seder. So, we packed up all the food that I had prepared for the next seder, put it in my granddaughter's stroller that we keep at my house as a backup, and brought the seder to our friends. We had a wonderful time, and they were so happy not to have to be alone. I would not trade the look on their faces, for all the free hotel accommodations in the world.
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oomis1105: that's really so nice of you all!
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Thank you for the kind words. It was my pleasure and zechus, and we benefited as well, from having an even more meaningful seder that night.
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I didn't have nearly as impressive a Seder as oosmis1105, but my sedarim were exactly as I planned. I made Kiddush, my six year old daughter said Mah Nishtana, I read about a third of the maggid, and my eight year old son read the rest. He prepared a Haggadah in school with a number of comments and chassidic stories to tell during the Seder. He said it all over the course of both Sedarim. I make it a point not to prolong the Seder in order to enable my kids to stay up for all of it. As such I asleep by midnight both nights. The fringe benefit of that is my son came with me to schul all three days, and davened rather nicely I might say.
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I don't know about that, Cantoresq. Sounds pretty impressive to ME!!!! Yasher Koach to your son, in particular. I think you have the right idea. It's more important for the kids to be ABLE to stay up for the whole seder, than it is to prolong it. I still laugh when I remember how we all came to shul bleary-eyed, everyone trying to "my-seder-was-longer-than-yours" each other. Yes, it is commendable when talmidei chachomim sat until shacharis time telling over their D"T, but for most little kiddies, for whom the seder is expressly designed, if they are up until chad gadya by midnight, that is a wonderful accomplishment. (just a note, I nearly fell asleep in the middle of shfoch chamoscha). This Daylight Savings Time thing just doesn't work for me until AFTER Pesach. We did start the Shul time a 1/2 hour later than usual both mornings, in order to make it a tad easier for everyone to catch a few extra zzzzs. My hubby was up for hashkama, anyway.
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Daylight savings before Pesach cramps the Seder horribly; especially the second night. Even though my wife fed the kids at 6:00 the first day, and thus was able to prepare much of the food for the second seder early, until I got home from schul, arranged the matzah, put on my kittel, etc we didn't start the 2nd seder until after 9:00 p.m. I doubt I would have made the Seder any slower had we started earlier though. My kids are young and have limited patience. But eating a big meal at 10:00 p.m. is difficult. And I would have much preferred to get to sleep earlier. I foresee very late sedarim into the future as my kids become more and more educated. Naches too has its price.
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we were supposed to have a few guests from a group home however, there was a little bit of problems there and some of the people had rashes so they couldn't come. one person has been our steady guest for all the Holidays for many years already. we delivered goodies before Yom Tov, however, it wasn't the same. the first night we were alone.
I tell over the Hagada and let each child tell a few thoughts from what they learned however, I save most of the D'vrei Torah from the kids for the Afternoon Seuda.
The second night we had a single fellow over. my girls like to sing so we had a bit of a seder and a half. after our guest left, we went back into the hagada and I gave my girls an opportunity to sing various parts.
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Our Rov told our shul that we should not make an elaborate meal for shulchan aruch so everyone should have room for the afikoman. It is too late at night to eat such a big meal and after all the marror and matzah, a bowl of chicken soup and afikoman was enough for me.
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oomis, what a wonderful chessed you did. Kol Ha'kavod!! That is a beautiful way to have a seder. By giving of yourself in such a way.
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Thanks, Mazal. Now enough with the compliments. I am blushing already. I am certain that there are countless people who likewise give of themselves, and not just at the sedarim. B"H there is much chessed being done by so many.
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So I was thinking about this a lot over Chag.
I sort of did go away to a hotel. We packed up, sold our house, and went to my sister. Then we went to my mother. I was not responsible for any cooking or cleaning or anything like that.
I had a wonderful Chag. Not doing the cooking and cleaning didnt take away from my enjoyment. And, I was just as tired as those who scrubbed and cooked LOL.
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SJS, you did get a likely well deserved break, but you also didn't have the pressure of dressing to impress, nor the food. (I take that back; your family may be gourmet cooks, but YKNWIM.) Your seder may have been large and noisy, but nothing like sharing a ballroom with dozens of other families. This isn't to say that there aren't hotels with clientele who aren't superficial, or pressured to cater to their superficial sides, just that hotels do tend to bring that out.
Posted 2 years ago # -
im staying home!
Posted 1 year ago # -
I'm also home...unless moshiach comes!
Posted 1 year ago # -
Home it is! And inviting the usual suspects...
Posted 1 year ago # -
I have done both in the past, and last year due to a torn rotator cuff and had to order in. This year I am home again due to guests that I am lucky to have, my mom (she should be well till 120) and her sister (same brocha) as well as their aid. Today I just heard that my daughter and family and my son and family want to come as well. I will let them figure out how everyone will fit.
Pesach costs big bucks no matter what you do and you have to clean no matter where you are. Although it is great not to be in the kitchen, you have to trade that with getting dressed up for every meal and waiting to be served (getting the waiter's attention etc) and still making sure that everyone at the table has what they need.
It is really no one's business or concern to tell anyone else how they should make Pesach or comment on anyone's decision. Each one of us make our decision's according to our own needs and variables. Whatever you choose to do, whomever you choose to spend Pesach with, may it be a joyous and meaningful experience for all.
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When I once said I wish I could afford to go away for Pesach, my neighbor (at that time) said if I could afford to go away, I could afford to stay home. Hire a cleaning crew and hire a cook. I'd have all the advantages of staying home with the advantages of not having to do any work.
Now all I have to do is find a way to afford the cleaning crew and the cook. :)
Posted 1 year ago #
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