1. What is your opinion about children having locks on their doors?
2. If they should have locks on their bedroom door, starting from what age?
3. What types of lock? Would you allow a lock that can only be opened from the inside like a bolt style lock?
Thanks
I say no because the doorknobs would become really smelly.
Everyone is entitled to their privacy, and hence is entitled to a lock on their bedroom door, if they so wish.
This is not to say, that their parents have to pay for the lock. The kids can utilize their pocket money for this door lock, if they so wish to install a lock.
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I am surprised nobody has anything to say on this matter
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Everyone is entitled to their privacy, however isn't a closed door privacy? Why do they need a lock? If they have a lock wont that allow them to also lock their parents out and to sneak things and do inappropriate things that their parents have no way of monitoring?
This is my opinion: Hope its not too long.
The question is what is the lock for? Is it for when they are inside the room? or when they leave the room/house?So no one can enter even Totty or Mommy? Some people no matter what age they are like things to be private, have things a certain way, nice and neat not moved around things borrowed and not returned etc.. especially teenagers I think. Let's say if you live in a house with a bunch of kids and some have a tendency to take with out asking etc.. Or if they say they want to study/homework and the 10 year old needs to nudge at that time.
Now if it is for something like that you need to know who your dealing with, you need to have some trust, if you live in a smaller apartment or in a house where there is no place for some one to hide for some privacy to rest, read a book, study, then some consideration needs to be given.
One example I know a family that had to buy a little case with a lock for one child because the other had a eating disorder and they couldn't keep any nosh, snack for the next day laying around, it was either the the lock or nothing at all and that's not fear.
But the healthy adults are able to get in and put in nosh and clean the box etc..
Now if it's for when they leave the house the question is how old they are? If they are children that depend on your care no matter how old they are you should have access to that room at all times. And not because you don't want to trust them, you tell them its because you do want to trust them, Totty and Mommy also share the same room and there is a difference between hiding things and not touching someones things with out permission. It's ok to lock a door, but not to let anyone in is not right.
Now, if its an adult child living in your house I thing it depends on the condition's and terms you have worked out. It depends on the situation and if you feel you need to have access to that room then discuss it respectfully with them. Everyone is entitled to respect and privacy.
By the way I knock before entering my Second Graders room as well, if the door is not open. You teach them respect by giving it.
Of course kids can have a lock on their doors... as long as the parents have a key.
Yes, but it should never be locked when they are sleeping. It's a fire hazard.
It does depend on family dynamics. If there is a step-parent, or not everyone in the home is related the same way, of course there has to be a lock. But there also has to be a means of unlocking from the outside.
I always worried about putting a lock on my daughter's door because she was a very sound sleeper and if there was Chas V' Shalom a fire then I would have to break down the door and it would take time when every second counts.
Yes. Especially if she is a girl so she shouldn't have to worry about brothers coming in by accident when she is getting dressed and stuff like that. Also, everyone needs privacy and should have a place to go when they just want to be alone. Better in the house then out of the house.
musser zoger
I am maskim, I was coming to the same maskanah.
Is the OP asking whether parents should be able to lock kids up in their rooms? If a young child is locked in a room one may break down the door on shabbos as it is potential pikuach nefesh.
Certainly one must not l'chatchila lock a child in a room - unless the child is older when there is no longer a sakanoh. Thus the shaylah is at what age is it no longer a sakonah to lock up a child in a room?
The OP is assuming that it is legal and not against dina d'malchusa to do so, which is in itself a shaylah that requires legal expertise.
A lock is a way of informing someone where he/she does not belong without permission. (ala Rabbi Hochberg)
A lock is a way of informing someone where he/she does not belong without permission. (ala Rabbi Hochberg)
Children should have locks for privacy's sake.
@rebdoniel
What age are you talking about? There really shouldn't be anything private between parents and their kids. Granted if the child is getting dressed in their room vs in a bathroom there is what to discuss. But as a parent I'd be very concerned if my child was locking their door too much
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