YYA > On what planet can schools teach 18 year old boys how to deal with the ניסיונות they face in the IDF, unless they are Yosef HaTzaddik?
anecdotal, but my kids invite once-in-a-while friends from yeshivishe towns to visit. Admittedly, they are not the top-level learners in yeshivos and BYs, but their parents are very “frum” and they are visually observant at their town level. You literally need to watch them constantly – they start flirting with village drunks, with no communication skills. I presume they would fall into those proverbial 30%. A normal MO student would not behave like that. They are not prepared to function outside of their community.
And, again – just start constructive dialog: find jobs that work best, find people who would do them best. Maybe send those who are stringest in their middos. Make specific requests where appropriate, but cooperate instead of demanding. It is not normal for Torah community to be looked down by ordinary Jews, including observant. You can’t blame anti-religious forces for that. Something is wrong with the picture when “Torah” Jews are seen like that. Some told me that when R Meir Shapiro was visiting Canada and started crossing the road, a local policeman, without knowing who that person is, immediately stopped traffic to let the Rav come through. This is how it should be.