Reply To: Is there a tactful way to say Shadchan prefers money?

This thread has totally convinced me that the way my married kids met their zivugim, was far and away superior to what is going on in the shidduch world today. They went to the same college, met each other in class or in the kosher cafeteria among a frum group of friends, and got to know each other as friends before dating, while in that frum chevra. No shadchanim, no shadchanus, no interference, and no problems. The “going rate” from one person’s standpoint, might be absolutely prohibitive from someone else’s. Should the poor girl or boy not be redt shidduchim? MAybe we should plan it that way. A-list Shadchanim for the wealthy, the B class of Shadchanim for the poorer families, and C-class (AKA “Candy-dishers”) for the ones who cannot afford virtually anything.