Reply To: Is there a tactful way to say Shadchan prefers money?

when money is discussed up front it sets a reasonable expectation from the payer that the payee will perform some sort of service on their behalf. when those expectations are not met, there are disgruntled customers and payers. I hate to say it, a services contract that will hold up in beis din outlining the responsibilities and obligations of both sides, is the shadchans best defense to avoid receiving a candy dish as shadchanus.