Syag:
I too would surely like to see Rebbeim and Moras get paid far better than they currently are,
YET
I think we can all agree, that their is no “crisis” situation in our communities, that schools can not find enough rebbeim and morahs.
Yet we all seem to agree that there clearly are not enough people involved in redding shidducim.
So i think it is self evident that the financial compensation quality of life etc package that goes along with being a rebbe morah is far superior to that of a shadchan,
and thus their are plenty of people who are happy to be rebbeim and morahs, – despite the many challenges- and not nearly enough shadchanim.
AND the burnout rate of those who do try to be shadchanim is 10x’s the burnout rate of rebbeim and morash.
hence, you comparison is faulty.
as for being a stay at home mom, yeah these shadchanim do that as well.
bthw-for the record, find me a shadhcan who consistently makes 6/7 shidduchim per year, and you will find a person who simply is unable to have any kind of employment, as making 6/7 shidduchim per year is full time work.
I am simply stating the obvious, if 6/7 shidduchim a year = maybe 17k… well then we shouldn’t wonder why we have so few people in the country who are ready to to it…
oomis:
your comparison to support is off.
surely, each parent of the single should/could do their research and ask around PRIOR to their child’s dating what shadchanim or perhaps a specific shadchan expects in terms of shadhcnaus.
that’s the equivalent of a shadchan discussing money with each side at the beginning.
However, expecting a shadchan to discuss shadchanus gelt with each side prior to the first date, is the equivalent of the potential mechutanim/singles themselves discussing money, prior to the first date.
I have yet to see a situation where on the first date the boy walks into the house, and before taking out the girl, he says to the girls father,
“um, before we get started, lets just be clear what the financial expectations arrangements will be in the event that your daughter and i end up getting married.”
The shadchnaim i know, are very comfortable discussing in conversation with people they know what they would like to receive for shadhchanus for shidduchim they make, they just aren’t comfortable saying that to the singles families prior to redding them a shidduch.