Syag:
“Also, I was not aware that there is a shortage of shadchanim by any means, so maybe there are cultural differences at play.”
Then i guess we are talking apples and oranges.
All i’m trying to do is help the singles, and i’m arguing that the current system of compensation for shadchanim is hurting the singles.
If in your circles that doesn’t seem to be a problem, then we are surely not talking to each other.
I for one don’t care much for shadchanim’s quality of life anymore than i care about anyone else’s.
I was simply pointing out that if we as a community complain that there aren’t enough shadchanim and the singles in the commuity aren’t properly serviced, then perhaps we should do some soul searching.
And maybe as a result more people would become shadhcanim and thus the singles would be better off.
as for your argument re: rebbeim and moras, as in any field, there are highly qualified and less qualfied peole. and Shadhcanus is not different.
BUT
shadchanus is the one field that (in the circles i travel) there seems to be a serious dearth of people for the singles to turn to to assist them in getting married.
I have yet to hear of a yeshiva/day school etc that had a teaching opening and simply couldn’t find people to fill it.
I haven’t heard of schools waiting months and months to fill a vacancy.
so apparently, for whatever the reason might be, it does seem like far more people relative to the community need in our community are willing and able to be educators than they are to be shadchanim.
(i wholeheartedly agree, that if educators would receive salaries like lawyers then we would likely find ourselves with a higher caliber educator, but this is a discussion for a different time).