syag:
curious, do you plan on having your friends cook the food for the wedding and holding in the back yard?
I’m just suggesting, it’s all a matter of priorites.
if it was me, i’d much faster skimp on the caterer band flowers hall etc,
but do whatever i could to give my child the best chance to find a shidduch.
but that’s just me….
AZ – ouch, that was very painful but I will answer anyway and suffer the embarrassment of those who know me. I’m glad you have the luxury of ‘setting priorities’ and giving your daughters that which some of us aren’t so fortunate to afford. I didn’t have flowers or alcohol because I couldn’t afford them. Do you want to know what else I couldn’t afford? a photographer. So I asked a relative who was a retired photographer for a favor. I had buffet because we paid less waiters that way, I couldn’t afford a full staff. Want to know what else I lived without because I couldn’t afford it or are you willing to accept that some people just aren’t who you think they are? And my wedding was beautiful anyway. And I DO have priorities.
I don’t think any shadchan owes me or anyone else anything. But if you want to say their job is to work with singles, than they should be working with singles. If they are only planning on servicing a specific niche, than it is a business, and they should treat it as one. You can’t have it both ways.
And I sure hope you weren’t referring to me when you said I treat them like dirt and want them at my beck and call, I said nothing of the sort.