I apologize, i was not referring to you specifically. How could I? i of course have no idea what your personal situation is and it’s certainly not for me to judge anyone.
BUT as a community we somehow find funds to make weddings even simple ones, and yet the shadchanim are handed token payments.
(yes- i consider even the current going rate of 1000-1500 to be a token payment, when taking into account the work that goes into the process of being a shadchan as well as how much money is spent in other clearly less important areas of wedding expenses.)
As for shadchanim, there are shadchanim for all types, BUT the shadchanim are simply overwhelmed by the sheer numbers of singles of all types that need their attention.
so, they are simply incapable of responding/catering to every singles one who reaches out to them.
Hence my suggestion, that the community would do well to encourage more people to consider and stay active as shadchanim.
And thus people like you describe would have more places to turn.
and one of the best ways of doing so, is if being a shadchan somehow was fiscally feasibile, which currently it just isn’t.
As for your question, what you could do specifically for your child, i will suggest something that i have found to be very effective. it’s something that i’ve done and encourage others to do and it works.
Reach out to shadchanim who work with the kinds of boys that are appropriate for your child, and make them a very fair offer should they get your child to a date #2/ date #4. It is a very cost effective method of generating quality shidduch attention for your child.
By doing so you are letting them know that you genuinely appreciate their efforts and that their efforts will be we rewarded. Shadchanim can’t gurantee to get your child engaged, but if they choose to work your child, they can get them dates and that is a very effective way to get your child to the chuppah.
For the record, as I’ve stated numerous times in the past, i am not a shadchan.