cherrybim, the point I’m trying to make is that one’s enjoyment of pesach is not necessarily proportional to the time and/ or effort one expends on preparations such as cleaning, shopping, cooking, etc. I do have a positive attitude about pesach preparations, and try to convey enthusiasm and excitement to my kids even when there is so much to be done. I also know that pesach cleaning is not the same as spring cleaning, but my young children are k”ah talented at spreading chometz throughout the house so I must keep that in mind.
My mother is visiting us as our guest; her preparations for pesach will not include much cleaning, shopping, or cooking. My husband supports our family financially and doesn’t have much time for pesach cleaning/ food preparation chores (he does help with a few tasks such as vacuuming the vehicles though). And my children are too young to provide much practical help in preparing for yom tov, although the older ones learn about pesach in school. Yet I hope their enjoyment of the yom tov will be as great as mine. I also don’t believe my own enjoyment of the yom tov will be diminished by the fact that I hire someone to help with the pesach cleaning.
And I believe those staying away from home for all of pesach (whether they are visiting relatives or staying in a hotel) are also able to experience a meaningful yom tov, even if they haven’t spent much time on pesach preparations.