“but she is post sem, so she is post brainwashed”
I disagree, 100%.
The “brainwashing” occurs when exposure to secular society sand-blasts away the aidelkeit we leave yeshiva and bais yakov with, and leaves us jaded and insensitized towards inappropriate speech, actions and thoughts.
A sibling of mine once commented after a few months at a secular firm that one of the worst things about it was “when I drop and break something I won’t say a curse, but now I think it”.
P.S. “Heck” is a euphemism for “He**”, and halevai I should be so sensitized as to object to it, but PSG is correct.