Assuming that the OP is telling the truth, which I have no reason not to, then I cannot believe that she is a feminist. AFAIK a femmeroid would: 1) only learn enough to say “I can learn like the men” just to prove a point and she would not learn for 10 years 2) would not respect a full-time learning man because of the patriarchal system. 3) not have so many kids.
BTW the Mishna (and subsequently Rambam and Sh”A) use the expression on not teaching a daughter Torah She-Baal Peh. To me that implies that a lady can go on her own and learn like from Artscroll. Speaking of Artscroll, I heard that the way their editors know if the wrote clearly was to have a smart frum woman (who never learned Gemara) read their explanation.