1. I didn’t say pointing – that would actually make sense. I said pointing with the pinky. As for the standing thing, literally everyone I know does it. Are you sephardic?
2. I have no idea, as a male it wasn’t ever nogeia. Tell me, is it halachic? If yes, please source.
3. And what do you mean by a self-created safek l’kula? You mean if I’m not sure why i’m doing something, I take the time to look it up?