And in an nutshell, this is why I HATE this form of finding out information on prospective dates. Why don’t you just hire a detective and be done with it? While you’re at it, contact the BBB, “just in case” the person in question has had a run-in in shady business dealings. Also, the FBI might be able to help in the investigation.
I really liked the way we met people in my day. Much less drama and much more pleasant dating, with less angst. And no one would DARE to ask what size dress a girl wore.