Here’s a breakdown of the difficulties as i see it:
1. Having Friends
a) at all
b) that you are/feel close with
c) that you are/feel not an outcast with
d) who u can put your gaurd down around and don’t have to be on defense
2. Belonging To A Sect
a) for feeling at home and a sense of kinship
b) who u can put your gaurd down around and don’t have to be on defense
c) you can just follow what comes along naturally instead of having to go thru each decision thoroughly
3. The Future
a) where do you live
b) where do you go to shul
c) where do you send your kids to school
wow, sorry thought that would be helpful but seems pwetty negative. I still think it will be helpful in discussing this and trying to work out a solution, but it’s probably gonna be hard and gonna take a while.