How would you describe your seuda?
At my place we have bochurim from Yeshiva over (no bad drunks). We speak Torah during the first half of the meal, and as it gets closer to shkiah, we sing songs which are bakashos (afterall, Kol HaPoshet Yad nosnin lo is also applicable between you and HaKadosh Baruch Hu!). At shkiah we put away the wine, put out lots of water, and sing songs of shevach and hoda as we sober up for benching and ma’ariv.