@Loyal Jew
“Before a husband does housework he should be matneh that it’s for chessed (which it is). Otherwise, it’s a reversal of gender roles, pas nisht and probably assur.”
Then for the man not to work and for the woman to work, is also ossur, since that is most definitely a reversal of gender roles as well.
Anyway, the way we do it, it’s pretty equal. Usually my wife puts the laundry in the machine and turns it on; I take it out and hang it. Then either of us takes it down and she folds it.
Similar story in the kitchen: most often I cook, but she does the dishes.
I see absolutely nothing wrong with that. I just hate folding laundry and doing dishes, so we’re pretty much equal in the house.
I don’t even think I do very much at all. She spends more time cleaning the house than I do. Once we will have children ??”? I should be doing much more in the house – basically all of it!
(By the way, we both work – I full time, she part time.)