Do Married Guys Do Laundry?

No.

All males and females in my home do laundry and dishes.

My hubby always helps with the household chores 🙂

My goodness! After the feminists started demanding to do men’s work, now they want men to do women’s work!?

This is what Paraoh did to us in Mitzrayim. Let’s not go backwards.

PBA: That is just because it is Orcha D’milsa, not a Chiyuv.

Shlishi: Find me any Posek that says it’s Assur to help your wife out around the house. Better yet, find me anyone who says it’s not a Chiyuv when she needs it.

Advice someone told me when I was a chosson:

Be quick to volunteer to do the dishes,….then break that first dish…..

🙂

Gavra does your wife actually buy that line?

It is not a “line”. I can load the machine, no problem (and do so, every now and then). Where it gets difficult is when you start drying some things, hanging others, and some dry for 10 minutes and pull out to hang.

I am not good at hanging 🙁 (Ittisa reads this, so she will agree)

Husbands do what they and their wives decide is fair and appropriate according to what works for them as a couple. There are no set rules. The more a husband helps the more he is appreciated and respected. This of course fills the wife with more love that she continues to shower on her husband. It keeps the cycle running. Especially if the wife is working and the husband’s hours allow him to be home at more convenient times.

If anyone thinks that any job is beneath them, they should remember who their partner is and how much they are supposed to love and respect them. So each are required to do for the other and there are no jobs that are beneath one or the other. What ever works best for the couple is what should be done, and no one should comment or butt into their arrangement.

When my wife was a full time stay at home, most of the household work fell to her. Now that she is out working, I help pick up the slack with housework which includes dishes, laundry, shopping and cleaning.

This thread reminds me of the story (whether it is true, or an urban legend, I dont know) they say over about the steipler z’l. An avreich approached him explaining how his house is always “flying” until the last minute on a friday afternoon, and how his wife cant seem to go any faster (seems he was looking for a nice way to get his wife to move faster). The steipler z’l is reported to have told him “grab a broom” (translated from the yiddish).

Sure we do laundry.. July and August

We only have two machines in our building for 70 families, so you can imagine the long lines and dragging bags up and down with kids. What a nuisance. We finally started sending our laundry out. I either drop it at a laundromat or send it out. The one time, recently, that I attempted to do it myself, I took my eyes off my little one briefly to load the machine and the next thing I knew, he was SCREAMING that his fingers got caught in a door! So now I’m back to dropping it off. The dishes are mostly me, with my husband helping only occasionally.

aries, I like what you said. In my mind, a great marriage is when a spouse doesn’t even consider it a “chore” when doing something that will help the other. It should be considered a privilege. A husband should cherish the opportunity to do something for his wife that will make her happy or her life easier. Making her happy should make him happy.

Am YISRAEL,

I don’t understand the story.

What was the point that the rosh yeshiva wanted to make? That the talmid is not a Torah scholar or that he didn’t consider himself one, or that he is one and that it isn’t beneath him (then why agree that it’s beneath a Torah scholar)? Sorry, I’m confused.

“What was the point that the rosh yeshiva wanted to make?”

I interpret the lesson as “dont be a tzadik on your wifes cheshbon”.

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Sometimes a person can learn better through osmosis by observing actions rather than by being given mussar.

The R”Y saw that the talmid felt so adamantly that it was beneath his kavod to do “menial” tasks. But the R”Y felt differently.

Imagine the talmid’s dismay to see his beloved R”Y taking out his banana peels.

I imagine the talmid absorbed the lesson well.

(A ??? should not walk around with stains on his clothing, but that’s a different principle than helping one’s wife.)

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Interesting to note, that the home is a “mikdash miat ???? ???.”

The ?????? saw it as a supreme privilege to do any work related to the ??? ?????, even the “menial.” Non-kohanim were not allowed to do this “menial” work.

FOOD FOR THOUGHT!

In addition, helping usually increases ???? ??? and is great ????? for the kids if there are any there.

Taking out the garbage is not a woman’s job per se. Doing the laundry is. Thus incomparable.

shmoel, why is doing laundry a womans job? and what makes something a womans job?

There is a story they tell. true or not, of the chassidishe chosid who was having sholom bayis issues. He went to his Rebbe and told him, “I try every segulah there is for sholom bayis including folding my talis right before Havdalah”. The Rebbe replied, “Did you once take out the garbage after Shabbos”?

In my home, my husband is self employed and works from home while I do volunteer work. In order to make things easier for me, he does the dishes, laundry and makes dinner. The only thing he requests is that I separate the light, white and dark laundry. I really appreciate and love him.

I may be starting a new minhag; but since my extraordinary wife bakes 6.5# of flour for challa every single Friday morning; I buy both of us a nice breakfast and we eat it together while the dough is rising or in the oven. And we are doing this for many years already.

chanie: And what do you do for him that would normally be his job?

The 2 days a week that I’m off, I do all those chores. In addition, I do all the shopping for food and clothing and a many other things. Then there is Davening twice a day. Reciting the entire Perek Tehillim for that day, plus a myriad of other things for and within the household. If you want to know if I wake up at 4:30am to learn with a chavrusah for 2 1/2 before ????? or learn with a chavrusa from 8:00-11:30 pm as my husband does, the answer is no, I don’t do that. It says ??? ?? ??, and our Rov and Posek dictates to us how we should run our lives according to the will of the ????? ?? ????.

I think a big part of it is a result of the home they were raised in.

Ok ill bite what is sponga?

In Israel they have a drain in the middle of the kitchen (and bathroom?) floor(s) that makes for easier cleaning.

*kapusta*

married guys do laundry, cook, wash floors, toilets, babysit, change diapers and anything else u can think of when then common sense demands it of them oh and yes learn 3 sedarim a day in kollel