Hi LoyalJew: “where Adam and Chava were told what their roles are. Of course we should help our wives, but as chessed, not as a reversal of roles”
So then, what are Bochurim/Bachelors doing by doing their own laundry, cooking their own meals, vacuuming the house? Does the “din” of the laundry machine change when a person gets married?
It’s not a question of gender roles. If something needs to be done, and no one else is around to help out, the young man does it.