aussie, thanx for responding. You’re very perceptive, btw. I don’t think she was mad, I think she was hurt, like the kind of hurt that the truth feels like (no, i wasn’t blunt about it, I cushioned it with honest and sincere compliments).
Why do you think that texting isn’t sincere?
Kapusta, I’m assuming that you’re familiar with the concept of time-out. Time-out is not a punishment, it’s a natural consequence of a child’s behavior. As if to say, you showed me that it’s hard for you to be cooperative or _________ (fill in the blank) and therefore, I’m taking you out of the situation by putting you in “time-out.”
Perhaps, you need to put this person into emotional time-out, in other words, I see that you’re not able to respect my needs in this area, and therefore, I need to block you out of the situation. You can be with her as much as you like, when this topic arises, you can emotionally shut down and repeat the same line, “I’m not willing to discuss it,” or whatever variation you’re comfortable with. No arguing, convincing, begging, procrastinating, or anything like that. Just repeat the same line, exact words.
She will eventually get it. She may be upset/hurt, although I do believe that she will come to understand (maybe not, from the way she sounds), she will get it though and this is probably the least confrontational way to go about it.
Good luck!
~a~