newbee
“I feel like a high school rebbe”
Thats so funny. I feel you are acting like a high school Rebbe too! The problem is I am not in high school and neither are the attendants at the dinner. What might be appropriate in one context is silly in another, and most of us become a bit more sophisticated after high school. Things arent always black and white. Just because there is a level in mesilas yesharim doesnt mean it is applicable to everybody
“you and everyone else, are not even addressing my point about the halachic dinner”
I have repeatedly addressed it but will address it again. In fact since you remind me of my high school Rebbe I will walk you through it slowly. Please let me know where you get lost:
1) No issurim were involved in the dinner
2) There is a level to strive towards to avoid Gashmiyus
3) This level is dependent on the people involved.
4) The people attending this dinner are not on your lofty level. OR more to the point – you dont know if they are
5) Giving mussar to people regarding a level they arent holding by is inappropriate
6) You criticized the dinner
7) Your criticism is inappropriate
Where did I lose you?