So here we are, letting social pressure make us do crazy things and feeling degraded if we don’t.
+1, and THIS is what needs to be changed.
If someone else wants to give another Jew money to make a fancier wedding and support their child’s living arrangements, don’t begrudge or complain about him giving. He’s giving his own money not your money.
If you saw another Jew not following Shulchan Aruch (YD 249), you wouldn’t say something!! I’m shocked!! You of all people should support what I’m doing.
DY: If you change the assumption to 1%, it is still over $10K.