Tzedakah – Who To Give To?


20150426_094230[By Rabbi Yair Hoffman]

There is a local Bais Yaakov of over 950 students in the Five Towns/Far Rockaway area that is currently in dire trouble.  Bnos Bais Yaakov of Far Rockaway’s building is in foreclosure and a receiver has been appointed.  A Kol Koreh signed by leading Gedolim is in preparation to alert the tzibbur about the situation.

Yet there are many organizations in Eretz Yisroel and throughout New York that are also in need of funds.   Do these organizations and aniyim have precedence over our local yeshivos, schools, and Bais Yaakovs? Where does one’s brother-in-law who works in chinuch fit in to all this? What are the best tzedakahs in terms of halachah? Do the poskim enumerate a hierarchy or order as to which tzedakos or which aniyim (poor people) we should give to first?

A work printed a few years ago in Yerushalayim by Rabbi Avrohom Moshe Zemmel, entitled “Ahavas Tzedakah,” provides us with just such a list.


There are three types of tzedakah where the phrase “kodemes lakol” (it precedes everything else) is employed. The three types are:

1.      Charity given to a Torah educational institute whose very existence is threatened with closure and the future of Torah for K’lal Yisrael, the Jewish People, is at stake. There are only three things for which we must sacrifice our lives—to avoid the sins of murder, arayos, and idol worship. Yet we see that Rabbi Akiva sacrificed his life in order to teach Torah. How could this be? The answer is that it involved the future of Torah for the Jewish People. (This is based upon the words of the Birchas Shmuel in his introduction to tractate Bava Basra.)

2.      Charity given to save a Jew from conversion in a situation where it is permissible to violate the Shabbos in order to save him (see Orach Chaim 306:14).

3.      Charity given to save a life—or to possibly save a life—i.e., pikuach nefesh.

Regarding charity for the poor, the precedence is as follows:

•       A poor person who is a relative receives precedence over a poor person who is unrelated. (Of course, if he will starve, the hungry poor person comes first.) A related poor person takes priority over the unrelated poor person even if the unrelated one is a Torah scholar (see Rabbi Akiva Eiger, Y.D. 251:3).

The question is which relative “beats” the other relatives in a “claim” for charity? Are there criteria as to which relative should be supported first?

The answer, of course, is, yes.


•       The first relative that deserves one’s charity is yourself. If you cannot make a living, you should not be giving to others before yourself. This is based upon the pasuk “V’chai achicha imach—and your brother shall live with you”; your existence comes first (Tur, Yoreh Deah, chapter 251, citing Rav Saadya Gaon).

•       The next relative is one’s parents. A father and mother come before anyone else.

•       A son and daughter come next.

•       A brother and sister come next.

•       A paternal sibling comes before a maternal sibling.

•       One’s spouse’s relatives come before strangers.

•       One’s ex-spouse comes before others (see Rema 119:8).

•       A talmid chacham (Torah scholar) non-relative precedes a non-relative who is not a talmid chacham, even if the talmid chacham is not from one’s own city.

•       Unrelated poor people from one’s own city precede poor people from another city—but not when the poor of another city have greater needs (see Y.D. 251:3 and Responsa Chasam Sofer Y.D. 234).

•       The poor of Eretz Yisrael have precedence over the poor of another city, but not over the poor of one’s own city (see commentaries of Shach and Bach, Y.D. 251:6).

This last criterion is key. According to most poskim our local charitable cases beat out the poor of Eretz Yisrael. This would mean that the local charity fund would have precedence over the Israel charity cases. (There is, however, an opinion of the Debreciner Rav’s older brother, the BeTzel HaChochmah [Vol. IV, 163:16] that there are two mitzvos involved regarding the poor in Israel: the mitzvah of settling the Land as well as the mitzvah of tzedakah. He opines that the poor of Israel would beat out the poor in our own city. One should consult one’s rav, but the simple answer seems to be like the Shach and Bach, that the local poor people have precedence.)


What about where we have two equal relatives? Is there another criterion that comes into play? For example, if one has two siblings, both in need of assistance, which one comes first?

•       The one who is a greater Torah scholar receives precedence over the other.

•       The next criterion is based upon gender; a sister’s needs take precedence to a brother’s.


Are there different grades of talmidei chachamim? In other words, if there are two Torah scholars and one of them has a much wider breadth of knowledge but the other has a deeper breadth of knowledge, who precedes the other? The Vilna Gaon (Shulchan Aruch 251:18) cites the Talmud Yerushalmi that the breadth-of-knowledge scholar receives precedence to the depth-of-knowledge scholar.

It is important to note that one should make every effort possible to avoid supporting one’s parents with tzedakah money. The Gemara tells us (Kiddushin 32a) that a curse should come upon a person who supports his parents through money that is destined for charity. This means that the money he should spend on them should be aside from money that he should give to charity. Of course, if there is no other option—if he cannot afford to give both—then there is nothing wrong with giving to his parents. The Talmud is only referring to a case where a person could have afforded to do otherwise.


There are also other criteria for priority of tzedakah:

  • Pidyon shvuyim (redeeming captives) is primary.

•       Supporting a mikveh, in a place where there is no other mikveh and there is a chance that people will stumble in prohibitions that involve kareis—takes precedence over supporting a yeshiva.

•       Charity so that children can study Torah is next (i.e., a yeshiva).

•       There is a debate as to whether tzedakah to run the day-to-day activity in the beis ha’knesses (for example, the electricity bill) receives precedence over tzedakah to poor people.

The Shulchan Aruch (Y.D. 251:16) rules that the synagogue needs come first, while the Vilna Gaon (Y.D. 251:20) rules that the poor people receive precedence. Clearly, everyone agrees that it is only the day-to-day activities being discussed and not the building fund (see Aruch HaShulchan, ibid). Indeed, Rav Vosner questions how some institutions can be requesting tzedakah funds to build beautiful edifices when there are poor people who are literally starving.

•       The issue of need is also important. If one person needs money now while another needs it later, Rav Moshe Feinstein writes that the more pressing need takes precedence (Igros Moshe, Y.D. Vol. I, No. 144).

The bottom line is that tzedakah precedence and the decision of who to give to is not something that should be approached flippantly or without thought.

Bnos Bais Yaakov needs to raise some two million dollars in order to avoid the foreclosure.  For those who wish to help save the Bais Yaakov – a donation can be made at

The author can be reached at [email protected]

Originally published at the Five Towns Jewish Times  on


  1. BBY is an amazing school. So sorry to hear about their situation.

    It would be nice if the BBY website referred to would have a PayPal link for donations. People(including me)would donate faster if we can “click” a donation, but will never “get around” to mailing a check.

  2. Why build these huge beautiful buildings when you can’t really afford or don’t really need it? Didn’t we grow up with simple buildings and a fine or better education then the kids today??

  3. Maybe they should sell the real estate they own in the area to pay for the building, they own a few houses on the block that they can make plenty of money from.

  4. In the interest of full disclosure, the tzibbur should know that the principal of this school has been indicted for stealing over $12 million. I’m not aware that he’s been acquitted.

  5. Yoko- When we were growing up, we also have 1/5th of the amount of children in our schools. BBY is actually busting out of their building.

    whateva- In interest of full disclosure, the tzibbur should know that the person you are referring to is no longer the principal and is not affiliated with the school at all anymore.