So what are we trying to establish here, OOT communities are not good?
I’m a NYer and its very nice, but the “best”? Probably not. As far as Shidduchim, I know some people look specifically for OOT (or OOT type) families because they are often more laid back. Not with Ruchniyus, but its ok if your child doesn’t have a complete designer wardrobe to compete with her classmates. Its ok to drive a Camry and not a Lexus. Find me that in NY.
No denying that NY has certain benefits, but each person needs to weigh whats important to them. Some do better in town, and some better OOT.
Oh, and as comfortable as NY is, its not Eretz Yisrael, and we had better not forget that.
(Sorry if I repeated anyones post, I didn’t read the whole thread)