live right – of course i’m biased, my opinions are based of my observations. As I wrote there are a select few girls who are sincerely dedicated to Torah. However, I would venture to say that most of them, as the thread stated, want to tell their teachers and friends by their vort that they are marrying a “learning guy”. Yes, i would dare to say that it is because it is circumscribed and they just go with the flow, girls have always behaved that way.
VM – perhaps I didn’t make myself clear? I was addressing the sad fact that only a minority of girls have such lofty aspirations, while a growing number just don’t want to stick out and have to tell everyone that her chosson is in college or working. It’s kind of awkward to say that to your sem rebitzen.
Nevertheless, societal complaints and generalizations aside, every girl marries a boy and they have the choice to start out their life the way they would like to. Learning must be the basis for every household, that’s the way a successful happy home is started. If this learning is not altruistic, what kind of start is this?