I feel sorry for the girl who only wants a full time forever learner, and then one morning wakes up nauseous out of her mind and must get to work, to support her family. What a rude surprise of what real life looks like.
No time in history have women been expected to earn a living so their husbands can learn. It is scandalous! Women have to bare children, raise them, and run a household, which is a full time and exhausting project on its own. Adding to it the responsibility of parnossah is simply not fair to women.
My zeida O”H told me that when he was in shidduchim no girl was interested in a boy who couldn’t support her. He worked hard and learned more hours a day than the average kollel fellow.
This without even taking the children into account, who are being raised by babysitters 9-5 and then brought home to an exhausted mommy.