@shopping, I meant it equally, using the queen (female) and the president (male) as examples to show that we all should be ‘refined’. MEN AND WOMEN. It’s nice that way, but I don’t believe it’s halacha. And like someone else brought up, making chumros into halacha has had VERY serious ramifications.
Don’t get me wrong, your friend is being wonderful by doing this, as long as she (and others around her for that matter) know it’s just a chumra