GAW- once again, you try raising a family, running a buisness, shopping, cleaning and cooking etc. a few centuries ago women literally didn’t work. They stayed home and raised families. So why is t suddenly all on the woman to do something someone with 48 hours a day can’t even do?
No husband should learn Torah all day at the expense of a worn out, stressed out wife. Hashem clearly says that it is not only about learning the Torah it is about living it. Being married, raising families, hatch nissa orchid the list goes on and on. Thats why I don’t think anyone is saying learning is not doable, it’s just hard and you must be willing to compromise on things for the sake of the Rorah you are learning.