Joseph – at the beginning of this thread, you said that 95% of divorces are criminal. Now you are saying “no one said divorce is always the wrong path”. While I can see that you left yourself 5% wiggle room, you seem to have changed your tune.
DY – My biggest problems are threefold.
First, this thread is the handiwork of a demonstrated plagiarist and serial fake-name artist.
Second, he made the false, absurd, and infuriating assertion that almost every divorce is criminal.
Third, He brings up as rationale for his position examples like the “If you don’t like it you can divorce me.” Its a simplistic straw man. Do you think a statement like that comes from a healthy marriage or mature husband or wife? No. If it is ever uttered it comes from people who are oblivious, selfish, completely self-unaware, or unprepared to take any responsibility for their actions. In short, its useless rhetoric, and it insults the intelligence of the vast majority of people struggling in their marriages.
The question in a marriage breakdown is: is it fixable? and are both of the participants prepared to take responsibility and do the work necessary? If not, it will eventually fail, and the poison already there will spread and get worse. The children will have to live in an increasingly tense, angry and eventually hateful environment. Don’t tell me that anyone – Rav Shteinman, another Godol, or anyone else thinks its a good idea for anyone to endure that.
I’ve met poskim, many of them BH, in myy life. And they pay attention to the particular circumstances before they answer a shailah. Divorces are the most particular of particular circumstances. Divorce is awful. it is gut wrenching, it is a reflection of personally not measuring up to ones own and others expectations, it is terribly hard on kids, it is incredibly expensive, it is a last resort. But it is NOT criminal 95% of the time as OP-Joseph wrote, nor 1%.
Such malicious slander by such a demonstrably dishonest poster deserves the reaction it is getting from me.