Jothar-
Hi.
It also enables you to ignore the daggers of “im yirtzah Hashem by you” that people so careless toss in your direction.
“Im yirtzah H-shem by you”, “May you and your family also be zoche to simchos” and similar statements are not casual, careless, unthinking, or flippant remarks. They are sincere brachos, wishing the one(s) they are directed at success in finding a zivug, becoming a parent, marrying off a child and so on. We have a family friend who has been looking for a shidduch for a while who we actually discussed this with at a Shabbos seuda once. My wife and I both weren’t sure if “IY”H by you too” and the like might be hurtful (especially to one who had been “in the parsha” for a while) and would be better left unsaid. The response was, “No, of course say it. It’s a brocha, and who wouldn’t want a brocha?” Obviously, if you know a person who would find this hurtful, you should be sensitive enough not to do so to them (or anything else that may cause them pain).
baal kishron-
Hi.
I know it’s a joke, but still it’s a pretty strong “shtruf”.
Why is it worse than the old expression “Ir zult vaxen vi a tzibileh – mit di kup in drerd”? I’m not sure it is, but I’m just saying how it struck me.