Thank you I can only try – you know what I will go ask a rav tonight if I am plain stupid and I will let you know, I just remember those high school days waiting at the bus stop and as the cars drove by I would think why can they just not stop, so I try to help others, but I will find out.
ilini07- I think she was not talking about kollel families but the typical ones where the husband works and the wife as well just to bring in more money. Rabbi Wallerstein spoke I think it was tisha b’av and he said how our parents were raised in much better homes because their mothers were home for them but in our days the mothers are at work as well, which does effect the family. So mother working can be the ideal but for circumstances that it cannot be done like if the husband is learning in kollel or they need money it is understandable.