Yekke – its TOO HARD to change on your own…
Sparkly – you shouldn’t be on your own, and certainly not around “people who are less religious and may not even be Jewish”. You should have spiritual guidance, and you should have a social support group of people with similar aspirations for growth in Avoidas Hashem. [And I understand that it’s not always possible etc. etc. etc.]
If you are trully recognizant of the fact that you aren not doing as well as you should, you cannot postpone growing or moving on. There is no ???? of “sorry, not interested at the moment”!!
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