Sparkly, I’d suggest questioning whether applying more chumros makes you “more religious”. Perhaps davening with more Kavonoh makes you more religious. Perhaps giving more tzedokoh or doing more chesed makes you more religious. Perhaps exhibiting more ahavas chinom makes you more religious. Perhaps exhibiting greater kibud av vo’em makes you more religious, or more kovod zekeinim. Perhaps (if I recall you are an NCSY advisor) doing even more kiruv work makes you more religious. Perhaps saying more tehilim for cholim makes you more religious. Perhaps learning more Torah makes you more religious.
My point is, its not one dimensional. Its not necessarily about how you look, what you wear or what you listen to. Perhaps its more (or at least as much) about the Hashpo’oh you have on others than about the Hashpo’os on you.