Provide for your family
Do acts of kindness and righteousness
Learn Torah within your capabilities
Be a true loving brother or sister to your fellow Jew, and a righteous example to the rest of the world
Seek and find fulfillment and joy in every mitzvah you have an opportunity to do
Make certain that your children value Torah Eretz Yisroel and am Yisroel
Recognize the Yad Hashem in your life and the ways of the world
Those are the ways to be “more ruchniyus”
Its not a competition or a hierarchy
All the rest is commentary