Person1: I agree with you, but I do have one qualification. It is very important for girls/women to realize that al pi halacha, they can’t spend money without okaying it without their husbands first, and even if their husbands are the nicest people in the world and even if (maybe especially if) the wife is the one earning the money, they might not appreciate it if their wives spend money without asking/discussing it with them first.
I knew two newly-married ladies who did not realize that, and their husbands were not so happy about it. In one case, I felt a bit guilty, because I had been out shopping with her, and when she said something about buying an article of clothing for herself as a surprise for him, I had a feeling it was a bad idea but I didn’t say anything. Her husband is extremely nice so it didn’t exactly ruin their marriage, but I think she wished she had realized that ahead of time.
I’m not saying that men should be controlling or domineering, but I think there is something in between a wife feeling controlled and a wife spending money indiscriminately. Each couple has to figure out what works best for them, taking their spouse’s needs and personality into account.