please be mochel me if you took it the wrong way. But, maybe you should have outlined it differently.
And, you should always consult with someone professional, you say you have tried everything- but, that he is leaving.
I didn’t mean you were lying. I just am wondering what exactly is the story here. Most teenagers, as I had said go through a phase.
It’s common. And you say- he doesn’t want to go to his yeshiva anymore. Does that mean, he won’t go to any yeshiva, or is he a dropout? I’m not trying to put you on the spot- or speak for anyone else, but a lot of people here have given you some great ideas. I, myself was debating to even get into this discussion.
The more I kept tracking it, the more confusing it got. That is all that I’m saying… and now, it seems to be even worse.
It’s the summer -time, bein hazmanim. See what happens when it gets closer to Elul, and he has to get back to yeshiva, if he still doesn’t want to go back, then you got a problem. Everyone needs some time to chill during bein hazmanim! No one – as I said before- has to wear the yeshiva uniform. Especially outside yeshiva. There are those yeshiva bochurim -even during the zman- when they get home, change into something more comfortable.
I was trying to get a load of the situation, and to see where the kid was holding. you also mentioned your younger son was hanging out with his older brother.
I was just trying to put everything in chronological order to figure this out. Sorry if I was a bit too harsh.