pcoz- exactly what kind of reward would you think suitable?
wow- I like the dorm idea too.. but he just might leave to soon cuz of the ‘too much learning’.
If your son ‘enjoys’ the other yeshiva and he is getting what he needs in support he will be motivated to get up in the morning and go. You did not mention the hours of the lower pressure yeshiva.. Do they keep them till late enough at night- so they cannot be on the street for too long..if he has to be in yeshiva at a certain time and he enjoys it, he will be in bed semi on time so that he can get up and be where he got to be..
just promise some money in the pushka and daven that he comes up with a decision.
my son BH is still wearing black and white although its in the form of t-shirts and polo shirts (which no one wears in my family) and black denim pants.. You have to see the way some of his friends are dressed-coming from chassidish families as well- I just daven it doesnt get worse than this.. he BH still has some friends that kept the ‘lvush’ of the past, so I am hoping he will change back- I am not sure how soon that may be because he keeps mocking that code of dress and the comments that go with it- funny thing he is always mocking a melamed or a menahel from the past- so without realizing what he is doing he is releasing the origin of the pain..